Toxic behaviors, not toxic people. I feel like writing others off as "toxic people" makes it look as though once you engage in bad behavior, you cannot change. You are just a toxic person. It seems trendy in this day and age to use the phrase "toxic person" and write a lot of psychobabble about the characteristics of the toxic person. It is true, often people with dark triad traits tend to get ahead faster. And often they have to turn off their compassion in order to get ahead. That is why I would make a lousy sales person. I empathize with others so much that I feel bad when I'm taking advantage of someone. I suppose that means I would be quite successful if I could possibly turn off that empathy and go into sales. As long as we live in a capitalist society that is very individualistic, we are going to see a lot of people with low empathy rise to the top. It's unfortunately the nature of our "I've got mine, screw you" wild west mentality here in America. However, if someone gets ahead by displaying inhuman or low empathy traits, they might actually be good people at home. Just because someone turns their empathy off while on the job, does not mean they do not possess empathy. A lot of it has to do with your ability to turn your empathy off for the job, then turn it back on again when you are home being you. Some people can put up those walls, others can't. Black and white reasoning is involved when labeling someone a "toxic person." That is very static, and creates a fear based mentality that we are all being victimized by these "toxic people." I think the term toxic person was created by the pop psychology industry to sell self-help books.

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