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How to Free Yourself From Problem Partners
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Narcissists and unavailable partners can be charming and seductive when dating, but tell-tale signs that can predict a painful relationship. Learn to spot them and your blind spots
Sometimes, it can take years to get over even an abusive or short relationship. These are the steps to take to rebound more quickly.
Sexual assault charges fill the news. Such behavior is driven by a culture that objectifies women, damages both genders, and spurs aggression.
Toxic parents don't treat their children with respect. They won’t compromise, take responsibility for their behavior, or apologize. How to recognize the signs, and what you can do.
Anyone who’s loved a narcissist wonders, “Does he (or she) really love me?” They’re torn between their love and their pain, between staying and leaving, but can't do either.
Narcissists may intentionally diminish or hurt people. It's important to realize narcissistic abuse stems from insecurity. Learn common mistakes and how to respond strategically.
Are you "on the fence" or trapped in a relationship you can’t leave? People stay for many reasons, but feeling trapped stems from deeper, unconscious fears.
People say that narcissists love themselves. They actually dislike themselves immensely. Penetrating their facade reveals their fragile identity, meaninglessness, and shame.
Learn to spot the not-so-obvious signs of emotional unavailability. If you attract distancers, you may be emotionally unavailable yourself. Find out.
Understand the mindset of an abuser to avoid 5 common mistakes that escalate abuse. Find out 7 effective ways to deal with it.
Our mother is how we know ourselves and our world. With a narcissistic mother, we never feel good enough and like her bond with unavailable or abusive partners.
Reason won’t stop us from falling in love or make it easier to leave. Ending a even a toxic relationship can be as hard as falling in love was easy! Learn to avoid these pitfalls.
Lies and secrets damage us and our relationships. People too often worry about the risks of being honest, without considering the risks of dishonesty.
Gaslighting is a malicious form of mental and emotional abuse that causes self-doubt and alters your perception of reality. Learn the signs and symptoms — and how to recover.
Sociopaths and narcissists can share similar traits, but knowing the difference is crucial to determine whether the relationship improve? Information is power.
Partners of narcissists can feel as cursed as the tragic lovers Narcissus and Echo. Their myth reveals important lessons for heartbreaking relationships with narcissists.
Emotional abandonment happens when the other person is lying right beside us.
Narcissists don’t really love themselves, but are driven by shame. Their coping mechanisms are abusive and damage relationships and loved ones–hence the term, “narcissistic abuse.”
Living with an addict can be a living hell. Trying to help can often make matters worse. Find out what you can do to make a difference.
Passive-aggressive try to block whatever it is you want. You feel their unspoken anger. Learn the signs and what you can do.
Abusers seek control because they're insecure, despite any outer success. Learn to spot them and what to do.
It’s easy to fall in love with narcissists. They cast a spell, but once you're hooked, the relationship revolves around them, and things change for the worse.
Manipulation is veiled influence or hostility that may seem benign, friendly, or flattering. It can be hard to detect and know how to respond, unless you can spot the signs.
There's much more abuse than the 3,000,000 domestic violence cases reported yearly. Emotional abuse precedes violence but is often unnoticed and rarely discussed. Learn to spot it.
You may not realize your relationship is harming you or be able to leave. Find out the symptoms, whether there's hope for change, and steps you can put into action.
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an expert and author on relationships and codependency.