It’s high time we put the most enduring myths about human behavior to bed, and see the mind—and the world—as it is.
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How to Free Yourself From Problem Partners
Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT
Why do you love an abuser despite the abuse? Learn how trauma binds you, and why it can be even harder to leave an abuser than a normal relationship.
Loving someone with a Borderline Personality Disorder is heaven and hell. Within hours you're both adored and abandoned. Their unbearable psychic pain hurts loved ones the most.
Sons of narcissistic fathers hide their insecurity, may feel a burden and that they don't meet their father's expectations. They may strive to succeed, but nothing feels enough.
If you’re discontented in a relationship or go from one to another, you may be stuck in a painful cycle that started in a childhood you thought was good.
Whether you're being abused or see yourself as a victim in your life the solution is the same. These 10 steps will boost your mood, self-esteem. and sense of personal power. Start!
Even when we're happy to leave, ending an abusive relationship doesn't end our trauma. Find out what to expect, such as grief, PTSD, and fears of intimacy, abuse, or abandonment.
On the surface, narcissists and codependents appear opposite. But on closer look, they both feel incomplete.
Know your enemy when dealing with abusers and manipulators. Learn their hidden agenda, covert tactics, and how to respond effectively.
These are the essentials about narcissism, its symptoms, and its causes. Find out why narcissists' partners often form unhealthy bonds and can't leave.
Narcissists can be charming, exciting, and engaging. They also act entitled, exploitative, arrogant, aggressive, cold, selfish, and cruel.
Trauma and abuse lower our self-worth, making us vulnerable to abusive relationships that reinforce false, negative beliefs.
People say narcissists can't change, but many benefit from therapy. If they won't go but their partner does, the relationship and partner can be helped.
Narcissists play games, seduce, and manipulate. When we don’t learn someone’s values and character, we are playing Russian roulette. Know your weaknesses to protect yourself.
Most couples overlook or argue about signs of trouble. Both reactions lead to more problems rather than change. Instead, take constructive steps to understand and resolve them.
Once in love with a narcissist or abuser, it’s not easy to leave. Understand the deeper reasons why, what to expect, and the steps to prepare yourself.
Narcissists' and abusers' primary defense is projection-identification. Understanding how it works protects your self-esteem and enables you to confront abuse.
Codependents can be easy targets for narcissists, and It's not easy to escape. But you can break free if you get help and do the work of recovery
Don't be fooled by a covert narcissist! They're just as harmful as other narcissists. Learn their traits, what distinguishes them, and take a quiz if you may be one.
To narcissists, relationships are a means to meet their needs. They play games, fool you, then leave.
Beware of the Dark Triad and getting involved with someone who has a malevolent personality. Learn the traits and don't doubt yourself. Get help, and protect yourself.
Narcissists can be beguiling and charismatic, but don't fall in love with one. Find out what behaviors to look for through a smoke screen of romance and seduction.
Research explains the benefits of why we believe fake news, lies, and abusers. Learn empowering steps to stop denying, excusing, or overlooking lies, abuse, and bad behavior.
The allure of being showered with love feels glorious, but beware of love bombing. It may be the tactic of a narcissist.
Love can’t exist without boundaries. Good boundaries build self-esteem. If you're resentful, judging or blaming someone, it might mean that you need you set boundaries. Learn how.
Narcissists and unavailable partners can be charming and seductive when dating, but tell-tale signs that can predict a painful relationship. Learn to spot them and your blind spots
Sometimes, it can take years to get over even an abusive or short relationship. These are the steps to take to rebound more quickly.
Women are finally speaking up, but domination of women is centuries old. Such behavior is driven by a culture that objectifies women, damages both genders, and spurs aggression.
Toxic parents won’t compromise, take responsibility, or apologize. How to recognize the signs, and what you can do.
Anyone who’s loved a narcissist wonders, “Does he (or she) really love me?” They’re torn between their love and their pain, between staying and leaving, but can't do either.
Narcissists may intentionally diminish or hurt people. It's important to realize narcissistic abuse stems from insecurity. Learn common mistakes and how to respond strategically.
Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an expert and author on relationships and codependency.