What are the psychodynamics behind extremism, absolutism and all insidious forms of polarization? On some level, the answers all relate to human beings’ inherent fear of death and their need for psychological defenses to deny or ease the endemic pain of the human condition.
In my observation of families, I have noted countless examples of well-meaning parents engaging in behavior that is insensitive, mis-attuned, or harmful to their children, while earnestly believing that they love them and have their best interests at heart. There are several reasons why it’s often difficult for parents to love their children.
Suppressing angry feelings inevitably has destructive consequences. I postulate four major ill effects of bypassing the feeling of angry emotions. They are (1) developing psychosomatic symptoms; (2) turning the anger against oneself; (3) projecting anger outward onto others; and (4) acting out hostile, negative behaviors.
Many developmental issues affect women’s sexuality. In this blog, we focus on seven psychological factors that tend to negatively impact a woman’s sexual desire, arousal and orgasmic capacity. Understanding these issues is useful in helping women achieve richer, more satisfying sexual lives.
Love — kindness, affection, sensitive attunement, respect, companionship — is not only difficult to find, but is even more challenging for many people to accept and tolerate. But why do love, positive acknowledgment and compliments arouse such animosity? There are a number of primary causes of this phenomenon.
You can address the problem of being an adult by recognizing and challenging defenses and altering childish behavior patterns. Learn how to become alert to situations and personal interactions that trigger your fear of growing up and take control over negative actions that relieve or quiet the fear.
What are the the principal barriers to living an adult existence? In this blog, I explore the psychodynamics underlying the tendency to hold onto a child’s perspective despite the emotional turmoil, maladaptation, and unhappiness it creates.
Most people are unaware that they are conducting their lives more from a child’s frame of reference than in an adult mode. Although men and women mature physically and become more capable in their practical lives, rarely do they achieve emotional maturity.
Instead of playing the role of expert, the ideal therapist would strive to be an authentic person.He or she would serve as a role model for the client, demonstrating through his or her responses and behavior, how to struggle against destructive forces within the personality and how to live less defensively.