There are ways to temper your toughest critic and take constructive control of your feelings.
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How challenges can strengthen your relationship
Linda and Charlie Bloom
We are attracted to another who is quite different from us. Some deep, wise natural knowing draws us to someone who is strong and developed in ways we are not.
The cost of a lie is far greater than any advantage you gain from speaking it...
When Arielle was home with their two young daughters and Jerry was the sole provider for the family, he felt secure in his position as husband.
Intimacy involves a high degree of vulnerability. Any time that we are challenged to drop our defenses, we are likely to feel some degree of apprehension.
Consider this story of devotion about a couple that takes time and effort to show how much they cherish each other...
We are all members of the scar clan. Mature love is hard won, because in every close relationship, there is inevitably some pain and loss.
“Don't settle! Go after what you really want..."
The foundation of vision is desire.
Fearlessness is not an absence of fear; it is being committed to something bigger than the fear...
Most couples do not talk enough about their sexual relationship and when they do, their conversations can feel uncomfortable or threatening.
The act of lovemaking can be a great way to shift from a focus on the destination to one on the journey.
Vows are the cornerstones of the foundation of a committed partnership and taking vows is a practice that defines the context, expectations, and values of that relationship.
Intimacy requires a conscious intention to make space in our busy lives for the experience...
Part of the process of being authentic with our partner is to feel the feelings and to be transparent, allowing them to see our inner experience.
Most of us have been brought up to think in either/or terms.
Researchers claim that our happiness is made up of 50% genetics, 10% the circumstances of our lives, and 40% our beliefs and attitudes.
When the love that a couple enjoys is robust and full, it demands a wider arena for expression...
Belle was an appreciative wife, praising Dutch’s work on their house, but she experienced a growing sense of frustration because they weren’t connecting.
Some couples get caught in a highly conflictual style of communication where fighting is commonplace.
No matter how hard we try, there are sure to be breakdowns, broken agreements, and unhealed wounds that can create conflict in a relationship.
Many of us have lost the means by which we experience the ecstatic, yet still long to be taken outside of ordinary reality...
When we interviewed the happiest couples we could find, we clearly saw that they were among the group keeping passionate romance alive.
When it comes down to it, we marry for one reason: we think that we’ll be happier than we would be being single.
What is it that extraordinarily happy couples are doing?
When the time comes for letting go of a relationship, most people don’t do it very well.
Since the perpetuation of the species is the force that drives the longing for connection, it seems that we’d be wired to get along with ease. But sometimes that is not the case.
In the couples’ counseling session, when I inquired of Candice how long she had been unhappy in the marriage, she announced that she had been dispirited for 5 of their 12 years.
To become a great lover requires being able to acquire the voice of love, but some people are quite inhibited about giving voice to the love they feel.
It drove Sandy nuts when Robert repeatedly came home from work late.
It can be hard to own up to how we get in our own way of having the kind of partnership that we dream of.
Linda Bloom, L.C.S.W., and Charlie Bloom, M.S.W., are the authors of Secrets of Great Marriages: Real Truths from Real Couples About Lasting Love.