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Tips for Building a More Satisfying Marriage
Rob Pascale and Lou Primavera Ph.D.
Avoiding fights while finding solutions to marital problems requires the right language and mindset.
Do you know your behavioral style? Our behavioral styles can greatly affect our marriage.
Each partner brings along personal baggage to their relationship. Our personalities, the characteristics that make us unique individuals, are one form of baggage.
Having children changes marriages in many ways. Be prepared to change your behavior and your expectations.
It is important for couples to agree on how they will handle money and debt.
The way we think greatly influences the way we interact with our spouses and can have a profound effect on our marriage.
It is important for couples to negotiate a solution when they disagree on how much time they should socialize and how much time they should spend together.
Dealing with issues in a marriage requires one to make some mental adjustments in the way we deal with that issue.
A negative bias can bring down a marriage. When we’re primarily focused on our partner’s personal shortcomings neither partner is happy.
Men and women often have different perspectives on what emotional support means, and sometimes that can spell trouble.
Similar attachment styles make for better marriages. Different attachment styles cab cause major problems.
How a husband's retirement may not be something a non-working wife will cherish.
It’s not just physical labor. It’s about expectations, perceptions of fairness, and various emotions.
Arguing in a marriage can be very helpful if it leads to solving problems. If the argument degrades into a tit for tat interaction, it is destructive to a marriage.
It’s easier for couples to sustain a marriage when they have similar interests and perspectives. We tend to be more comfortable with someone who has the same values and beliefs.
Power and control can be an issue in all kinds of relationships. There are some relationships in which the two parties are equals and some in which there is an imbalance.
Trust is one of the keystones of any relationship—without it two people cannot be comfortable with each other and the relationship lacks stability.
Irrational beliefs that can disrupt a marriage.
Couples will inevitably run into situations where a decision needs to be made. Learning to negotiate a solution will lead to the best result.
Spending time with others helps to strengthen our identification as a couple and make us feel connected to the world. Just as important for a successful marriage is time together.
Friends, acquaintances, and family members are essential to our mental health. But some are helpful to a marriage and some are destructive.
Marriages change over time like all relationships do. Here are things to consider so that your marriage changes for the better.
What do you when your partner does something that hurts you?
Having realistic expectations about our marriage will result in less dissatisfaction.
Marriages change over time. Partners go from passionate to more companionate.
If things are wrong with your marriage, perhaps you need to renegotiate your relationship contract.
If you want to change the way you act and feel, you have to change the way you think
There are different forms of commitment and some are better than others.
Do men and women have different agendas when it comes to sex?
What does infidelity do to a marriage? Can marriage survive infidelity?
Rob Pascale, Ph.D., is a research psychologist. Lou Primavera, Ph.D., is the dean of the School of Health Sciences at Touro Colleges. They are the authors of Making Marriage Work.