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Documenting lessons and insights from therapeutic practice
Blake Griffin Edwards LMFT
Cumulative bodies of research make clear our fundamental responsibilities in the course of nurturing our children's development.
Vice sows compulsion, and virtue sows freedom. Between the extremes when I can no longer do wrong and when I have lost all strength for right, there are innumerable degrees.
Alone, we miss things, and together, we do more good and less harm. Better care is provided together.
As questions arise, don’t assume. You know what happens when you assume, right? Hipsters question everything. How hip a HIPAA hipster are you?
Couples who do not experience mutuality often channel sadness, fear, or shame through behaviors that can destroy relationships, but therapy can help.
We make difficult decisions, live into them as best we can, then tell tales, not accounts. We engage in meaning-making not just to cope but as part of a long process of acceptance.
Here are a few must-read insights about how the introverts all around you process information and engage in relationships.
We have a fundamental need to feel safe and loved in marriage. Infidelity can impose an attachment injury. In order to move forward, couples must understand these fundamentals.
We must be careful not to overestimate the precision of any personality model. On the other hand, human personalities are not merely irreducible one-offs.
We can look back over the 20th century and see that an obvious and radical transformation took place in the field of mental health. What changes will the 21st century bring?
We have freedom to find meaning in what we do and experience or, in the least, have freedom to take a stand when faced with a situation of unchangeable suffering.
If a therapist can connect with a child through play, there is a strong message conveyed that they mean him or her no harm.
The research on rage has indicated mistakes to avoid when your feathers are ruffled. What's your style?
When we slow down our overreactions and provide a nurturing sensory environment, it’s good for not only our children's brains, but also ours.
We are far from purely rational creatures, and the world is not a purely rational place. Why should therapy be?
You may think these should go without saying, but in my personal and professional experience, they have not.
Over the course of therapy, clients drop one after another of the defensive masks with which they have faced life.
A growing body of literature reveals that children who have been exposed to domestic violence are more likely than their peers to experience a wide range of difficulties.
Abuse within families is behaviorally nuanced and emotionally complex. It is within a dynamic of power and control that emotional and physical abuse is perpetuated.
That day I put away some of my preconceptions. Let us not underestimate the power of warmth, acceptance, vulnerability, and unconditional care.
Neurosis is a conflict between self-awareness and the unconscious. In varying forms, we're all neurotic. Our neuroses shape us as life continues to shape them.
If I withheld my reflection from Wesley, I would be a mere Rorschach inkblot from which to affirm pre-existing and self-defeating assumptions. And so I told him...
Sue and Roger came to therapy due to intense conflict. Sue would experience hurt and express anger. Roger would experience hurt and either express anger or emotionally withdraw.
If therapists are lifeless or their technique too technical, their efforts may be worthless, and a poor excuse for scientific experimentation.
Blake Griffin Edwards is a licensed marriage and family therapist, behavioral health director, and integrated care consultant in Washington State.