5 Techniques for Champion Parenting

What can parents learn from teachers who are masters of their craft?

Posted Mar 26, 2013

I coach public school teachers in the Greater New Orleans area.  There is name for what I observed in this teacher’s classroom: Joy Factor (J factor) and Tight Transitions. Techniques like these are extracted from the one of the bibles of the Education Reform movement, Teach Like a Champion. The author, Doug Lemov is described as the John Madden of professional teaching.  As a young teacher he had a hunch that champion teachers use specific strategies to maximize instructional time and build a culture of high expectations, so he spent several years observing excellent instruction and he now shares it with teachers around the country in books, trainings and videos.  His book is a compilation of 49 techniques that enable teachers to close the achievement gap.  

What if the techniques used by champion teachers can also help people become champion parents?  Think about the times when you are in the grocery store, the playground or a social event and you see a parent nail it and interact with their child with an enviable finesse and savvyness.  Is it possible to learn those moves?  I'd like to think so.   Here are five techniques pulled from my work in the education reform movement that help parents become masters of their craft:

1. Align your team.  The most effective leadership teams I’ve observed within schools have a clear mission and purpose, core beliefs or values that are the expression of this mission, and structures or systems that reinforce the overall mission of the team.  Do you have a family mission statement?  What values are most important in your family and what artifacts exist to support the integration of these values into your daily life?

2. Look for trends and patterns- One of the hallmark moves of the education reform movement is the focus on data driven instruction. Teachers and administrators spend countless hours poring over data, looking for root cause and holes in instruction.   Parents should do the same. Make observations about your behavior and your child’s behavior.  Use a behavior chart to track the tricky moments, like temper tantrums, disobedience, whining or biting.  Make note of the environment, the time of day, your mood, eating patterns, sleeping patterns and frequency of behavior.  Then analyze the data.  Look for patterns to the behavior and formulate a new plan. 

4. Threshold Rule – Doug Lemov writes that the first minute when students cross the threshold into the classroom you must remind them of the expectations.  In a classroom, this would look like a teacher standing at the door, greeting each student by name and sharing an uplifting message.  As a parent, the thresholds happen anytime you say hello or goodbye to your children or partner.   Getting up in the morning, going to bed, picking up and dropping off at school, coming home from work.  What do your loved ones see or hear during those times of transition?  How do you say goodnight?  How do you greet your children in the morning?  How do you greet your partner at the end of the day?

The achievement gap is just one hole in the social fabric of our country.  The parenting gap is another.  Without social support, resources, and information on effective parenting, many parents become frustrated, overwhelmed or disengaged with parenting altogether.   There is much that parents can learn from the world of teaching, especially given the shared goal of raising children to be emotionally and socially competent, confident and resilient.   Techniques like the ones listed above leave everyone feeling like a winner.