The research on what helps temperamentally shy children may surprise. Parents who coddle have more comfortable children in the short run, but by the time they get to kindergarten, their children are more shy, not less. These lessons can help parents of kids with more flexible or feisty temperaments manage their inevitable fear as wells.
Be aware that preschoolers can bully and be bullied on a daily basis. Most of it is not lethal, but a lot of it hurts and shames—both are feelings that can ruin their day and stay with them for a long time.