What to know about what you don’t know you know. #1: Intuition is very efficient—if you don't overthink it.
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Richard B. Joelson DSW, LCSW
Too often, well-meaning friends and relatives will be heard to say things like, "Don't you think you should be better by now?"
You might be surprised to learn that I think "yet" is one of the most important and powerful words in the English language.
Life together will be easier for people with similar dependency needs and styles. However, differences between partners should not be mistaken for different levels of caring.
What can we expect as the result of psychotherapy?
What happens when our attempts to adapt to a problem intensify it rather than ease or resolve it?
Which is the most meaningful, relief or change?
When is it reasonable and appropriate to point fingers?
Why can’t we just say thank you?
Taking responsibility for communicating our decisions and choices.
Why do some people who seek long-term relationships resist commitment?
Being uncomfortable with our aggression can lead to justifying inaction even when we need to address a difficult situation
How can we distinguish between self-care and giving up?
Anticipation as a form of preparedness…
Beware of being caring and attentive to the needs of others while neglecting yourself.
When working with couples, I am continually struck by the absence of many basic ingredients of a successful partnership.
We often dread the real or imagined consequences of provoking emotional reactions in our partners.
What constitutes healthy pride, something one ought to be able to freely express, and boastfulness or bragging, which most find objectionable?
The emotional significance placed on these terms can promote or interfere with personal satisfaction and success.
How can we feel better after an emotionally charged conversation instead of worse?
Why do some people complain a great deal while others complain rarely, if ever?
Instead of ending after 16 weeks, the support group kept going for 41 months.
The distinction between reacting and responding is an important one and one I have emphasized in my psychotherapy and counseling practice.
When patients control more of the doctor-patient conversation, they often have better medical outcomes.
While self-blame is something to avoid, a self-inquiry into what they might have done to contribute to an unfortunate circumstance might prove extremely helpful.
How can we use anger to strengthen communication and enhance our relationships?
On several occasions, I have observed patients who seemed to be listening when I was talking to them, but left me doubtful about just how much they actually heard.
Are we substituting financial concern for something unrelated?
What to do if you’re a person or parent subject to misplaced anger and aggression.
How do we determine our successes and failures?
Directly handling matters will always be a more effective response than avoidance.
Richard B. Joelson, DSW, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice in New York City who has been an administrator, educator, and author in the field of mental health for many years.