Life provides turning points of many kinds, but the most powerful of all may be character-revealing moments.
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Moving Toward Growth and Change
Richard B. Joelson DSW, LCSW
When working with couples, I am continually struck by the absence of many basic ingredients of a successful partnership.
We often dread the real or imagined consequences of provoking emotional reactions in our partners.
What constitutes healthy pride, something one ought to be able to freely express, and boastfulness or bragging, which most find objectionable?
The emotional significance placed on these terms can promote or interfere with personal satisfaction and success.
How can we feel better after an emotionally charged conversation instead of worse?
Why do some people complain a great deal while others complain rarely, if ever?
Instead of ending after 16 weeks, the support group kept going for 41 months.
The distinction between reacting and responding is an important one and one I have emphasized in my psychotherapy and counseling practice.
When patients control more of the doctor-patient conversation, they often have better medical outcomes.
While self-blame is something to avoid, a self-inquiry into what they might have done to contribute to an unfortunate circumstance might prove extremely helpful.
How can we use anger to strengthen communication and enhance our relationships?
On several occasions, I have observed patients who seemed to be listening when I was talking to them, but left me doubtful about just how much they actually heard.
Are we substituting financial concern for something unrelated?
What to do if you’re a person or parent subject to misplaced anger and aggression.
How do we determine our successes and failures?
Directly handling matters will always be a more effective response than avoidance.
Your “plan of action” may be plan-heavy, but action-light…or without any action at all!
One might argue that any therapy has as an implicit objective to help the individual acquire the characteristics associated with hardiness.
Psychotherapy and counseling are more effective endeavors when someone is actively engaged in the process, believing that change, where possible, is the objective.
Whether one is an optimist by nature or a pessimist instead, it is important to keep perspective—especially under stressful or ambiguous circumstances.
Why can decision-making be so troubling?
Many people seem to find saying “I’m sorry” an extremely difficult thing to offer. Here are four guidelines for an effective apology.
Problems arise for certain individuals—and the people they invite or allow into their lives—when they are unsure or confused about their needs in a romantic partnership.
Why do people choose to remain in a unsatisfying relationships—even when they know it's not the right thing to do?
There are a few ways of coping with a currently tense relationship that has become so because of irreconcilable political differences.
Through my work, I have had the satisfaction of seeing positive outcomes when two people work hard at relationship self-improvement.
How might a person, married to someone they love and with whom they are happy, be unhappy being married? And how can they successfully address it?
Sometimes condolences can hurt more than help.
Many times people who request advice don't really want it. And, perhaps surprisingly, unsolicited advice can harm a relationship rather than strengthen it.
Richard B. Joelson, DSW, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice in New York City who has been an administrator, educator, and author in the field of mental health for many years.