For the adulterer, infidelity is exciting and seductive, conferring feelings of renewal, rejuvenation and joy. The person betrayed, however, often feels like all the air has been sucked out of the room. What leads to such a dissolution? Relationships are problematic, and require ongoing work, but a dalliance often feels insurmountable. The person with the wandering eye gets thrown into the dog house, and the one who was betrayed feels the relationship is irreparable.
Infidelity is breaking a promise to remain faithful to a sexual partner, whether that be marriage vows sanctified by the state or privately uttered agreements between lovers. As unthinkable as the notion of breaking such bonds may be at the time, infidelity is all too common. And when it happens, it raises thorny and painful questions. Should you stay? Can trust be rebuilt? Or is there no hope, and no choice but to pack up and move on?