Essential Reads

Why Do Stories of Change Inspire?

By Art Markman Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Ulterior Motives
A staple of self-help groups is that people who have been through addiction and alcoholism tell stories of their journey. Why are those stories inspiring?

Seven Warning Signs of Potentially Toxic Relationships

If you have the misfortune to find yourself in a toxic relationship, the “normal response” to an “abnormal situation” can include feelings of suffocation, trepidation, and shame.
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Why We Hate People Who Disagree

By Mark Alicke Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in Why We Blame
Can we like people who disagree with us?

Keep Daydreaming: Why Only Dreamers Create Consciously

Understand the concept of unintentional creation of reality: Worrying vs. daydreaming.

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B.E.A.R.–Strategies for Restraint and Stability

Looking for strategies to help curb your anger arousal? Try practicing B.E.A.R.

Understanding Why Bachelorette Rachel Chose Bryan

By Goal Auzeen Saedi Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Millennial Media
Since the Bachelorette finale weeks ago, speculation and rumors are still flying regarding whether or not Rachel made the right choice. Read on for one psychologist's take.

A Simpler Way to Get Along Without Asking About Feelings

By Kimberly Key on August 18, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Some people, and lots of men, have been raised not to feel and are at a loss when they are asked to identify a feeling. Or worse, they have been abused for their feelings.

A New Toxic Trend in Relationships: Is Yours at Risk?

Do you look to your partner to support for your own self-expression? A cultural trend is having unforeseen consequences for couples.
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It’s Not Your Fault

If you were abused, know that it’s not your fault, you aren’t damaged, and you have a chance to live a meaningful life.

The Power of Persuasion: 6 Ways to Get Your Way

Making the principles of persuasion work for you.

The Unselfish Art of Prioritizing Yourself

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Compassion Matters
Maintaining a certain regard for ourselves, doing things we want to do, and engaging in self-care are fundamental to creating a good life for ourselves and the people we love.
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Life’s Imaginary Prison Bars

By Alex Pattakos Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in The Meaningful Life
"Prison bars imagined are no less solid steel."

Superhero Therapy: A Book to Help Your Inner Hero

In her book Superhero Therapy, Janina Scarlet shows that a fear or weakness does not make a hero any less heroic, and that we all can be heroes both for ourselves and for others.
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Managing Your Life in a Dysfunctional Relationship

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Dysfunctional relationships, whether they are filled with anger or addiction or mental illness, often create a flood of contradictory emotions within you. Tips on how to navigate.

Can Rest Make Us More Productive?

By Peter Bregman on August 14, 2017 in How We Work
Discover why even an hour of rest a week can increase your productivity and Marilyn’s principles for establishing a rest routine that works.

How Can We Change the Rampant Disrespect in Our World?

Is disrespect wearing you down? Some ways to begin making a difference.

Michelle Gielan On Mindset

By Isaac Lidsky on August 14, 2017 in Mastering Your Reality
A positive psychology expert teaches us to “mine the data of our existence” and construct a reality that fuels and empowers us.

From Panic to Peace

Do you struggle with anxiety? Smalls steps and simple approaches can make a big difference in how you experience it.

Does It Feel Safe With Other People?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 14, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Even if the other person reacts to you, you could handle it fine. If there is something to deal with — conflict, betrayal — you can be clear-eyed and strong, without being anxious.

First Memories

Like a child who uses a blanket to self-soothe, a memory may be a psychological mechanism awakened at certain moments to protect us from hopelessness.

Holding the "Both-And" in Times of Stress

Compassion, wisdom, and curiosity may just be able to help us avoid the well trodden path to polarization, them vs us, and the limits of right and wrong. We are more than all that!

Race in America: Tips on Talking With Children About Racism

Current events depicting racism often spark the race conversation. How can you have the talk with your kid?

Three Questions for New Grads

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 13, 2017 in How To Do Life
Should you defy the conventional choices?

The Seduction of Secret—How Intrigue Sparks Attraction

Mysterious, fascinating, or assertive partners spark intrigue and admiration. Yet avoid a date with disaster by considering why someone does not open up.

An Impactful Change You Can Successfully Make

By Karen L Smith MSS, LCSW on August 11, 2017 in Full Living
You have a voice inside your head narrating your life and actions. Is it kind and supportive? Unless you have made a conscious effort, it is likely mean and hateful.
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Igniting the Spark

Five ways to get you back on track to motivation and commitment to take the steps you need to take. Move forward!

Two Parallel Events Together Send a Message to You

Conjunctions of Meaningfully Parallel Events (CMPEs) is a coincidence type that provides highly useful messages to those who learn how to use them.

Seven Tips for College and Graduate Students

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on August 11, 2017 in How To Do Life
Common-sense ideas that, alas, are too-often neglected.

Two Weaknesses of Forgiving: It Victimizes and Stops Justice

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on August 10, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
Do you have thoughts about forgiveness that stop you from forgiving? You might want to carefully examine these thoughts to be sure you are not blocking yourself from healing.
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Why Should I Pay For Anyone Else's Health Care?

Ignoring the power of chance is poor, painful policy.
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Yes, It IS Possible to Lose Weight

A recent study shows that weight loss is possible.

It’s Not Really About Control: Tips for Frustrated Couples

It happens routinely. So often, when I begin counseling with a couple, not one but both parties complain that the other is trying to control them. But just how accurate is this?

Sometimes to Love Yourself, You Need a New Name

By Jennifer Haupt on August 08, 2017 in One True Thing
I’m changing only three letters, Carolyn to Caroline, which seems like a simple uneventful, thing to do, but to me, it feels like a lifting of a curse.

Out of Balance?

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on August 08, 2017 in Your Wise Brain
Think of sobriety in terms of the big picture, and in the context of a life well-lived. Sobriety is a gain—of health, self-respect, unclouded mind, peace with others and bliss.