Essential Reads

Making Peace With Conflict

By Holly Parker, Ph.D. on January 18, 2018 in Your Future Self
Conflict isn’t fun or delightful. It runs the gamut from mildly annoying to immensely distressing, and it can damage relationships. But is it intrinsically harmful?

Why the Narcissistically Entitled Are So Difficult to Please

The narcissistically entitled can make dealing with them difficult indeed. Knowing what’s behind their fussiness can make your life, and possibly theirs, much easier.

Healing From a Toxic Childhood? The Two Words You Need Most

By Peg Streep on January 16, 2018 in Tech Support
The culture thinks that persisting is hard and requires grit while quitting is easy. The truth may surprise you, especially when it comes to toxic relationships.

Is Facebook Spying on an Ex-Flame The New Normal?

Has Facebook stalking become the new normal? Research indicates that post-break up covert monitoring of an ex-flame after a breakup is increasingly common.

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How to Say Yes, No, or Some: A Post-"Cat Person" Guide

By Sari Cooper, CST on January 19, 2018 in Sex Esteem
Do you relate to the characters in "Cat Person"? Here are some critical dating and sexual tips for Millennials and beyond.

I Am Not an Elitist! (Or Am I?)

By Saul Levine M.D. on January 19, 2018 in Our Emotional Footprint
President Trump criticizes liberal elites for being disinterested and out-of-touch with those who comprise his base of supporters. I disagree, but then I look at "real facts."
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Do You Say Different Things About #MeToo in Private?

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on January 19, 2018 in Off the Couch
If you have mixed feelings about #MeToo, should you just stay silent? Or is there a better idea?

Are You a Good Judge or Just Judgmental?

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on January 19, 2018 in Think Well
Some people are quick to make judgmental pronouncements about others. Here is why they are usually wrong.

Love vs. Habit

Why do so many smart and creative people make the same mistakes over and over?

How to Love a Narcissist

When you are in love with someone who is self-focused, the success of your relationship will depend on your ability to understand and accommodate narcissistic traits.

Has the #MeToo Movement Gone Overboard with Aziz Ansari?

By Deborah L. Davis Ph.D. on January 19, 2018 in Laugh, Cry, Live
Isn't there a difference between bad guys doing bad things, and good guys doing gross things? A bad date is not #metoo.

Is There a Bridget Jones Effect?

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on January 18, 2018 in Media Spotlight
Is there really a Bridget Jones effect? New research explores how romantic media content in movies and television can reinforce the fear of being single.

Your Most Valuable Asset

Now that we’ve gotten your attention, let me just assure you that it’s not your bank account. But then you probably already knew that...

How Do You View Your Partner?

A negative bias can bring down a marriage. When we’re primarily focused on our partner’s personal shortcomings neither partner is happy.

If Oxytocin and Sex Deceive You, Try Gratitude to Move On

By Rita Watson MPH on January 18, 2018 in With Love and Gratitude
If you are suffering from heartbreak, honestly evaluate your last love relationship, then embrace gratitude and look forward to Valentine's Day with a new perspective on love.
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Finding Peace Within–A New Year’s Wish

By Iben Sandahl on January 18, 2018 in The Danish Way
It's almost like beneath our New Year’s promises there is something written in invisible ink. Other stories—a narrative about not being worth our own weight at all.

How a Yabut Can Kill a Conversation

Nothing sucks the blood out a great idea faster than the dreaded "Yabut." Yabuts need to feel in control and by adding the word "but" they discount everything leading up to it.

Books to Seriously Boost Your Happiness in 2018

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in Feeling It
Want to boost your efficiency, be happier, and more emotionally intelligent? Take these 10 steps thanks to awesome new books.

After an Affair

By Marty Babits on January 17, 2018 in The Middle Ground
After an affair, communication can plummet. Or, if the affair is understood as an opportunity to make long-needed changes, communication can improve tremendously.

The Number One Way to Overcome Infidelity

Moving past infidelity means forgiving the unforgivable. Yet research indicates that forgiveness-inspired relational commitment predicts whether the relationship will survive

The Inner Life of Animals: Love, Grief, and Compassion

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in Animal Emotions
An Interview with Peter Wohlleben, author of a new book on animal emotions called "The Inner Life of Animals," a sequel to his best-seller "The Hidden Lives of Trees."

Five Reasons Why Your Romantic Relationships Do Not Last

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in The Forgiving Life
Even if you have had a series of challenging romantic relationships, your new partner and you may be strengthened if you consider the five points described here.

Micro-Cheating

By Sam Louie MA, LMHC on January 16, 2018 in Minority Report
Do you find your partner's emojis to others too flirty or just too much with someone else? If so, your romantic relationship could be victim to "micro-cheating".

Teens and Dangerous Levels of Cell Phone Use

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on January 16, 2018 in Nurturing Resilience
If we’re going to prevent children putting themselves at risk for mental disorders, parents and communities are going to have to impose some rules and take a lesson from Iceland.

Reacting and Responding

The distinction between reacting and responding is an important one and one I have emphasized in my psychotherapy and counseling practice.

#MeToo—Changing Brains, Relationships and Power Dynamics

By Amy Banks on January 15, 2018 in Wired For Love
Neuroscience has something to add to the #MeToo movement.
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Dating Made Simple

A new way to look at relationships is simple, and profound.

Cat Person, Aziz Ansari and Power in the Age of Trump

The New Yorker's "Cat Person" short story seemed to be a prelude to the current Aziz Ansari story. What can we learn about power and vulnerability in the Trump era?

A Fish Out of Water

By Barbara Klein Ph.D., Ed.D. on January 15, 2018 in Twin Dilemmas
Being a twin in a non-twin world.

You've Got the Magic Touch

If you're a hardcore NPR listener like I am, you may have heard the Morning Edition show with Michelle Trudeau talking about the health-promoting properties of touch.

What Gift Will No One Return?

At this time of year, we’re gazing at that gift we were too lazy to return. Or dreading getting the wrong thing for Valentine's. Here's the one gift everyone appreciates, always.

Are You Facebook Friends With a Psychopath? How to Tell

Worried about Facebook friending a psychopath? When it comes to spotting dark personalities on Facebook, research reveals red flags.