Essential Reads

Most Strangers are Safe: Learn to Spot Those Who Are Not

As strange as it sounds, most strangers are safe--statistically speaking. Yet in a world of distraction and multitasking, learn how to remain aware of those who are not.

Problematic Low Sexual Desire in Men?

Many men don't want to admit if they experience low sexual desire. So what do we really know about men's experiences?

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Showing Up

Showing up for performances, events, agreed-upon dates, and in times of need shows love. Your presence can underscore reliability, willingness to receive, and a desire to give.

Facts, Truths, Beliefs, Opinions, and "Alternative Facts"

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on March 25, 2017 in Think Well
In this time of "alternative facts," it's helpful to consider the difference among actual facts, truths, beliefs, preferences and opinions.

More Posts on Relationships

Do You Ever Feel That You're Not Interesting Enough?

In the book and film "About a Boy," the main adult character comes to realize that his life of leisure and pleasure may prevent him from finding love. What can we learn from this?

How Intention Shapes Blame

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on March 24, 2017 in ExperiMentations
We tend to blame easily, at our peril. Blaming can take the place of thinking, and lead to vicious cycles. Understanding how blame works can help us make better choices.

How Much Solidarity Do You Feel With Animals?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on March 23, 2017 in Animals and Us
A new scale helps researchers study why some people identify with animals and others despise them.

A Deeper Significance Found in Choice of Pronouns

By Lydia Denworth on March 23, 2017 in Brain Waves
New research on "you" reveals the power of pronouns in helping us process and make meaning from hard times.

Finding Yourself in the New Tribalism

By Carol S. Pearson Ph.D. on March 23, 2017 in The Hero Within
Neotribalism is a sociological term that describes the way many countries are splintering apart in response to a global society in which it is difficult to find our individual iden

Why Is Secret Sex So Exciting?

Do you have a secret relationship? Do you find secret sex to be more exciting? Find out why secret sex can be more novel, thrilling, intimate, and satisfying.

Relationship Mistakes to Watch Out For Early On

While some people do change, most don't. Old habits die hard. If things are difficult now, the likelihood is that they are only going to get worse.
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Healing the Most Important Relationship In Your Life

If you had a choice, what would you rather be feeling right now?

Hell Yes: The 7 Best Reasons for Masturbating

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 22, 2017 in Hide and Seek
The stigma surrounding masturbation has to stop.

The Scarfmaker

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 22, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story

How to Handle Someone in a Bad Mood

By Sheila Kohler on March 22, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
Yesterday my husband, a doctor, came in the door,with a long face, carrying the groceries he had bought. I could see he was annoyed.

Relatedness and Autonomy, A Delicate Balance

"Successful mountain climbers know that they must spend at least as much time if not more, in tending their base camp as they actually do climbing mountains..." - M Scott Peck

To Alleviate Moving Stress, Ask Yourself 20 Questions

Despite the stress of change, you can alleviate moving anxiety by appreciating where you are living now and looking forward, with gratitude, to a new place to call home.

Relationships Are Like Surfing

“You can’t stop the waves from coming, but you can learn to surf.” -Swami Satchidinanda

Family Dysfunction: How Therapists Get the Whole Story

Therapists have several useful techniques for getting shameful, protective, or guilty patients to open up and tell the whole story regarding dysfunction in their families.

What I Learned From Taking Part In A Silent Dinner

By Tim Leberecht on March 21, 2017 in The Romance of Work
In a time when everyone's constantly talking and rudeness seems legitimate, silence is not only golden - it can be disruptive.

Radical Self-Honesty

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 20, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
We can see in our society how dishonesty poisons our world with cynicism and mistrust. This suffering calls for a deepening commitment to being real with ourselves and each other.

10 Ways to Find More Happiness

Happiness can be as confounding as Indiana Jones looking for lost treasure. Just when you think you have a clue, some giant boulder comes rolling toward you.

The Life Lessons of Children

Adults who can recognize children as teachers can learn some life skills that might improve their own life experience.

10 Ways to Help Your Daughter Get Over Her Boyfriend

A breakup is like drug withdrawal.

Predatory Polyamory?

My first blog on this topic told monogamous folks that they did not need to worry about poly people trying to steal their partners, but readers wrote in telling a different story.

How Relationships Work

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on March 19, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Want a straightforward, research-backed, practical overview of how relationships work? Here it is.
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Are We Doomed to Repeat Our Relationship Patterns?

Do the attachment styles we develop in childhood inevitably shape our adult relationships? And if so, can they be changed?

Small Changes Can Have Big Effects: The I-M Approach

By Joseph A. Shrand M.D. on March 18, 2017 in The I-M Approach
Have you ever promised yourself to do something only to fail miserably? Perhaps you are trying to do too much. The I-M Approach reminds us that small changes can have big effects.

Movies That Tell Us Life Is Livable, Even If It's Imperfect

By Stanton Peele on March 18, 2017 in Addiction in Society
Two new movies tell us that life is worth living, and love worth pursuing, even as it carries bitter disappointments.

Looking Through the Eyes of Another

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on March 17, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
What would it be like, in this moment, to look through another’s eyes? To widen the circles of compassion and be part of the healing of our world?
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7 Common Mixed Signals in Dating and Relationships

By John Kim, LMFT on March 17, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
Don't let mixed signals get in the way of your relationship.

Readers' Views About Porn and Relationships

In 2012, I began asking Psychology Today readers about how pornography is influencing their relationships. You might be surprised by what they shared.