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3 Best and Worst Ways to Be a Friend When a Friend Needs You

A recent news article suggests that people need friends as well as lovers. When your friend’s relationship is in trouble, research shows what to do and not do as a confidant.

Bromance Over Romance, Say Men in New Study

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on October 17, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 30 heterosexual university men found that they valued their bromances more than their romances in every way except one.

Choosing a Romantic Partner

By Aaron Ben-Zeév Ph.D. on October 17, 2017 in In the Name of Love
It is mistaken to hold that keeping all romantic options open cannot be bad, as you can always select the best. There is a cost to this and too much of a good thing can be harmful.
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The Key to Forgiveness?

By Tim Cole Ph.D. on October 15, 2017 in Intimate Portrait
How easy is it to forgive a partner? The answer depends on how much you still believe that your partner cares and wants to do right by you.

More Posts on Relationships

On a Date, Here is Your Most Attractive (Invisible) Asset

If you set your device on the table on a date, beware: distraction signals disinterest. Instead, cultivate chemistry through the most significant silent compliment: your attention.

Are You Confusing Comfort With Happiness?

By Peter Bregman on October 16, 2017 in How We Work
Discover the four pillars of meaning, why our culture has an obsession with happiness, and why happiness can’t be pursued.

How to Discuss Sex With Your Children

By Michael Castleman M.A. on October 16, 2017 in All About Sex
Child and teen sex education resources contain misinformation and emphasize procreation over pleasure. Here's how to correct them.

100 Practices For Great Relationships

This list will assist you in identifying where your work is still required to become eligible for a great relationship.

Space Invaders

How a husband's retirement may not be something a non-working wife will cherish.

What Is Your Role in Your Relationship?

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on October 16, 2017 in Compassion Matters
Couples get into trouble when one person takes the role of a parent, and the other, the role of a child. Breaking down this dynamic can reveal how it's hurting our relationship.
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Teresa of Avila: Mystic, Visionary, or Flourishing Woman?

By Ryan M. Niemiec Psy.D. on October 16, 2017 in What Matters Most?
Learn the top strengths of one of the most popular and influential saints, Teresa of Avila. How might this mystic inspire you to flourish?

5 Reasons Fear of Failure Sustains Toxic Love

There is far greater risk in holding onto unhappy relationships that do not meet an individual’s needs than there is in moving on. Five reasons fear of failure keeps people stuck.

Sometimes the Simple Sound of “Sorry” Stinks

"Sorry" can be a sorry excuse for an apology, especially in a text. Here's a better way.

Sexual Harassment at Work: Why Bystanders Fail to Intervene

"If you see something say something" applies in the workplace to more than threat assessment. It should govern the way we approach identifying sexual harassment.

Three Ways to Spot a Sexual Harasser at Work

Do you have a sexual harasser in your workplace? Be attune for traits indicating narcissism, overperception of sexual interest, and objectification or dehumanization of women.

Time to Put Your Childhood Demons Behind You?

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on October 15, 2017 in Fixing Families
Everyone has baggage from the past that haunts or handicaps them in some way. The 3 common sources and ways to finally put these demons to rest

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Look at the Big Picture

Daily events can derail a relationship all too easily. Remember the reasons why you came together, appreciate the glue that maintains your bonds, and understand what threatens.

How Lack of Sleep Affects Your Social Life

By David Ludden Ph.D. on October 15, 2017 in Talking Apes
Although the cognitive effects of sleep deprivation are widely known, few people pay much attention to the social side of sleep.

Sexual Harassment Victims Suffer in Silence: Here´s Why

Silence is not golden. Sexual harassment is an invisible epidemic that takes an emotional, physical, and financial toll on its victims--particularly in the workplace.

Is Harvey Weinstein Addicted to Love?

By Stanton Peele Ph.D. on October 14, 2017 in Addiction in Society
Harvey Weinstein sought a mother's love and admiration, combined with sexual devotion, in 20-year-olds, an addiction that doomed him.

The Psychology of Romantic Love

By Neel Burton M.D. on October 14, 2017 in Hide and Seek
Could romantic love be little more than an ego defence?

Choose Joy for Your Child

What does compassion for yourself and your child look like?

Is This Fantasy Love or Authentic Love?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 13, 2017 in Rediscovering Love
People who seek authentic love know that successful love relationships can never be based upon fantasy expectations.

How to Improve Your Sex Life Tonight

Want better sex? Follow these tips and really get what you want.

What Parents, Grown Kids Mean By "Independent" Is Different

By Jane Adams Ph.D. on October 12, 2017 in Between the Lines
Can your kids be adults even if they're not wholly independent? And is that still a valid endpoint to maturity? Interdependence may be an idea whose time—and place—has come.

Taming the Wild Beasts

In learning to live in integrity with the truth of our experience rather than from a commitment to protection, we begin to cultivate the kinds of qualities...

When Your Spouse Is Addicted

How do you cope if your spouse is struggling with addiction? Learn how to be honest, but not enabling.

Dating After a Break-up?

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on October 12, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
Starting over?

Listening Patience

On several occasions, I have observed patients who seemed to be listening when I was talking to them, but left me doubtful about just how much they actually heard.

7 Infidelity Preventatives Your Marriage Needs Today

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in Clear Communication
The best defense is a good...defense.

My Daughter Found Out About My Affair

By Barbara Greenberg Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in The Teen Doctor
Should you tell the truth about an affair?

Are Same-Sex or Heterosexual Relationships More Stable?

As Americans become more accepting of sexual minorities, differences between same-sex and different-sex relationships are smaller than ever.

Don’t Just Blame Facebook for Fake News: It’s Us, Too

Is social media use a race to the bottom of our brainstems?
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Are Past Relationships Putting a Damper on Your Current One?

By Vijayeta Sinh Ph.D. on October 11, 2017 in Life in Balance
Don't drag past relationships with you. Trying to understand them will help you move forward.