Essential Reads

Loneliness Poses Greater Public Health Threat than Obesity

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on August 23, 2017 in The Squeaky Wheel
The loneliness epidemic is growing and becoming more costly by the day. But there is something you can do about it.

Why Adultery Is Harmful Even Before It's Discovered

Kai Cole uses her experience of her marriage and divorce from Joss Whedon to show that the saying "what you don't know can't hurt you" is wrong.
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Top 10 Parenting Tips

By Tim Carey Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in In Control
Parenting is the greatest trip on earth. I wish you the ride of your life.

When Your Boss Is a Bully or Worse: What Can You Do?

By Peg Streep on August 18, 2017 in Tech Support
Our working lives take up a lot of time and, sometimes, emotional space. What to do when your work is wrecking your state of mind?

More Posts on Relationships

Tribalism and a Way to Common Ground

If you are tired of the on- and offline vitriol inhabiting our daily lives today, consider this: we have a lot more in common than you might think.

Ever Been "Stashed" by an Ex?

Advances in communication technology have spawned a new vocabulary and new methods of breaking someone's heart.

Excuse Me! How Rationalizing Weakens Relationships

Regardless of how good an excuse seems, it will usually aggravate problems rather than resolve them.
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Deuces Wild

By Elizabeth Young on August 21, 2017 in Adaptations
Marty doesn't play with us anymore. The guys talk about him occasionally: Ed reports that he is quieter, more remote, as kind and gentle as ever.

What if Your Parents Were Just Not That Into You?

What if your parents were just not that into you? The lifelong effects of childhood neglect.

Do You Ever Argue Like This?

Arguing in a marriage can be very helpful if it leads to solving problems. If the argument degrades into a tit for tat interaction, it is destructive to a marriage.

What Should You Do When You Don't Trust Your Therapist?

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on August 21, 2017 in I Hear You
What's the right thing to do if you've started therapy, but you're not sure you feel a connection to your psychologist? Here's a tip that could get the treatment back on track.
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Saying Goodbye? 5 Ideas for Emotionally Healthy Farewells

By F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W. on August 21, 2017 in Off the Couch
Whether you’re saying goodbye to a child, a pet or a house, to a marriage or partnership, or to a loved one who is dying, farewells can be painful. How can you make them easier?

Domestic Violence: Power and Rank Dynamics

Being unaware of power dynamics, leads many to blame and shame the victims of domestic violence. Understanding these dynamics empowers us to bear loving witness.

Life Long Learning

he Buddhists refer to such a state of openness as “beginner’s mind.” They regard this orientation as the curiosity of a child’s mind, and believe that it is an enlightened way....

"How Come People Say They Love Animals and Kill Them?"

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in Animal Emotions
In a discussion with kids about human-animal relationships some difficult topics were raised. Some focused on obvious conflicts, people saying one thing and doing something else.

Your Legacy After You Die: Will It Be Anger or Love?

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on August 20, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
When you die, you might leave a legacy of anger in the world that could be passed to your children. Or you could leave a legacy of love that is passed on as a gift to others.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Responding to Silences

Identifying a silence's meaning and responding according to its underlying intent can be a powerful way to show love. Matching the response to the meaning reflects intimacy.

Thresholds for Racism

Some people have high thresholds for racism. But subtle racism is more widespread than blatant racism. An awareness of history can improve accuracy in detecting racism.

Is It Narcissism? Or Why Some People Can't Love

Wondering if someone is a narcissist? Here is the test of 8 traits that most all narcissists have.

What Your Earliest Food Memories Say About You

Memories of food associated with growing up influence you in ways you never realized. New research shows the role that food memory plays in adapting to adult life.

B.E.A.R.–Strategies for Restraint and Stability

Looking for strategies to help curb your anger arousal? Try practicing B.E.A.R.

Can You Sue Someone Over a Broken Promise?

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on August 18, 2017 in So Sue Me
Have you ever relied on someone's promise, only to be hurt when that promise was broken? Promissory estoppel is the little-known legal doctrine that holds people to their word.

25 Simple Self-Care Tools for Weary Parents

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Many parents are exhausted and overworked. These ideas offer ways to engage in self-care, renew your energy, tune into feelings, and strengthen relationships in 10 minutes or less.

1-on-1 Opposite Sex Friends: A Blind Spot Threat to Marriage

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Clear Communication
Check your mirrors. Giving up friendship freedom may save your marriage. Here's five tips on how to manage friendships with the opposite sex without compromising your marriage.

Understanding Why Bachelorette Rachel Chose Bryan

By Goal Auzeen Saedi Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Millennial Media
Since the Bachelorette finale weeks ago, speculation and rumors are still flying regarding whether or not Rachel made the right choice. Read on for one psychologist's take.

A Simpler Way to Get Along Without Asking About Feelings

By Kimberly Key on August 18, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Some people, and lots of men, have been raised not to feel and are at a loss when they are asked to identify a feeling. Or worse, they have been abused for their feelings.

A New Toxic Trend in Relationships: Is Yours at Risk?

Do you look to your partner to support for your own self-expression? A cultural trend is having unforeseen consequences for couples.

A Good Marriage Is Better Than Therapy

A loving marriage can heal old emotional wounds more effectively than the best therapy. At its best, psychotherapy creates a warm and understanding relationship.
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The Hero's Journey

Can you take the pain out of painful relationships?

How Our Bodies Age, Part 5

Does sexuality have to decline as we age? Maybe in this regard aging is a myth. We grow old in other people's eyes and eventually they convince us of that fact.
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It’s Not Your Fault

If you were abused, know that it’s not your fault, you aren’t damaged, and you have a chance to live a meaningful life.

Give Me Back My Keys!

To build a new life, it's time to take back the keys from your ex and step out of the self-constructed prison of the past.

Anger Over Trump’s Words Harms Our Health: Can We Forgive?

By Rita Watson MPH on August 17, 2017 in With Love and Gratitude
If we are angry about Trump's Charlottesville words, we can instead cling to the words of Nelson Mandela, as cited by Barack Obama in the most liked tweet in Twitter history.