Essential Reads

Unloved Daughters and the Culture of Shame

By Peg Streep on June 23, 2017 in Tech Support
Shame plays many roles in an unloved daughter's life, especially on the road to recovery when the cultural notion of filial obligation becomes yet another obstacle.

The Badass Personalities of People Who Like Being Alone

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Living Single
What are the personality characteristics of people who like spending time alone? What about people who are unafraid to be single? Four studies offer an affirming profile.

The 5 Defense Mechanisms That Can Sabotage Your Relationship

Defense mechanisms are a common way to manage anxiety, but they can get in the way of your close relationships. New research shows how to make your defense mechanisms work for you.
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Why We Should Be Having More Meaningful Conversations

Meaningful conversation is linked to happiness? Introverts got it right.

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Boost Your Sex Appeal in Four Extraordinary Ways

Ordinarily, to boost your sex appeal you alter your physical appearance, but try these extraordinary strategies, no physical alterations required!

Toxic Relationships: Accept or Reject?

The more things change, the more people seem to stay the same. Trying to change others is almost always a waste of time.

How Embracing Vulnerability Strengthens Our Relationships

Many people struggle with vulnerability but fail to realize the ways they protect or distance themselves from others. Being vulnerable in our actions can save our relationships.

How Rejection Sensitivity Derails Relationships

By Juliana Breines Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in In Love and War
It’s common to have fears and insecurities about relationships, but sometimes these fears take on a life of their own and have destructive consequences.
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Can Marriage Survive When Your Child Dies Under Your Watch?

Marriage can survive the tragic loss of a child. Having these tools in place helps.

Toxicity as a Stealth Teacher

By Kaja Perina on June 22, 2017 in Brainstorm
Nothing absolves bad actors, but shifting your focus from reactive to proactive and intentional allows you to master your own mind, which is all that you can ever control.
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The Number One Reason Marriages Fail

The sad reality is that most people who marry never really have a WE-dding.

One-Hit Wonder

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in How To Do Life
A short-short story about a has-been, who feels his best days are behind him.
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How to Really Attract What You Want In Life

By John Kim, LMFT on June 22, 2017 in The Angry Therapist
There are two different mindsets we have as we maneuver through the world. We are either chasing or attracting.

The Loneliness Epidemic and What We Can Do About It

By Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. on June 22, 2017 in Feeling It
Our need to feel special is may be feeding a loneliness crisis. Here's what we can do!

How to Keep Disagreements from Becoming Fights

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Ambigamy
Supreening: posturing or preening like you're the supreme judge deciding who's right—you or your opposition.

The Art of Choosing a Romantic Partner (Part Two)

By Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Media Spotlight
Why do we choose the romantic partners that we do? And what shapes the choices we make? New research provides some interesting insights into partner selection.

Relaxing the Over-Controller

By Tara Brach Ph.D. on June 21, 2017 in Finding True Refuge
How do we shift from the identity of a controlling, wanting, fearing self into a compassionate witness that can see what is going on and knows how to rest and just be?

Making Romance Last, Part 2

Novelty is characterized by newness, freshness, unconventionality, unfamiliarity, difference, imaginative, creativity, and innovation.

Now What? How to Talk with Your Millennial Kids about Love

Young adults want their parents to talk with them about the complexities of romantic relationships. The "Marriage 101" professor shares some questions to help you get started.

Not All Smiles Project the Same Image

Custom make your smiles to ensure you send the right message.

Splitting Your Ex Makes Breakup Recovery That Much Harder

Splitting is the mental magician trick of remembering your ex as only good and impedes breakup recovery. Here are five things to know about splitting to help you move on.
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Why Complainers Need Your Compassion

The freedom to complain is part of a healthy society. Here's how best to respond to your own, or someone else's, occasional complaining.

Some Tips for Staying Married

Suggestions from a long-married guy for keeping your marriage going beyond those first few crazy-in-love passionate years (or months).

Parents, Your Millennial Wants to Talk with You about Love

A new report from Harvard indicates that millennials long to talk with their parents about romantic relationships. Here's how to get your intergenerational love dialog started.

I Am a Teen and Have Feelings Toward a Teacher

How to deal with feelings toward a teacher.

Broken Heart Syndrome: New Research and Tips on Recovery

Stress cardiomyopathy, which primarily affects women, has not been considered life-threatening. But new research shows that it can have long term physical effects.

Old Selves and New

By Loren Soeiro, Ph.D. ABPP on June 19, 2017 in I Hear You
Ever feel like one type of person in some relationships, and a completely different one in others? Here's how psychotherapy uses this phenomenon to bring about change and insight.
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Five Ways Your Partner Can Help You Stay Cheerful

With conversation and compromise, you and your partner can avoid BIS—Bitchy Introvert Syndrome.

First Date

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in In It Together
Are you missing the important signs of a match on first dates? Here are some characteristics of a healthy, happy match.

What Is Leadership Presence and How Can It Be Developed?

By Peter Bregman on June 19, 2017 in How We Work
What is leadership presence and how can it be developed? Lisa also turns the tables and interviews me for my take on my best insights on how to develop leadership presence.

Making Romance Last: Part 1

Enlarging our comfort zone is good for us as individuals and terrific for us as a couple. Our life becomes more interesting and creative.

Getting Over a Grudge: The Case of Taylor and Katy

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on June 19, 2017 in Shrink Wrap
Wrong or right, does it matter?

My Relationship Ended. Now What?

None of us are taught how to grieve "right." After a breakup, it's important to give grief its due so we can heal, move on, and open up to love again.

Reflections on a Father's Day Mystery and Its Impact

Why did he run away from the orphanage at 14 and hop freight trains across Canada? What led him to settle into a life that sought security but harbored unfulfilled dreams?