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Confused About Successful Jerks? Get to Know the Dark Triad

By Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Insight Therapy
Most of us don’t wish success on selfish, nasty, and dishonest people, and yet many such people are successful. How come?

How to Change Passive Aggressive Behavior

Is a passive aggressive person causing you to feel angry and exhausted? The skill of Benign Confrontation can help you make long-term changes to this destructive dynamic.

If I Can't Have You, No One Can

How can we predict who will kill someone s/he once loved? Look at the dark clouds in the relationship to predict storms after a breakup.

How Likely Is Your Partner to Cheat on You?

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 14, 2017 in ExperiMentations
Are you concerned your partner may be seeing someone else when you've agreed to be exclusive? Researchers continue to study infidelity to better understand when and how it happens.

More Posts on Personality

Is It Narcissism? Or Why Some People Can't Love

Wondering if someone is a narcissist? Here is the test of 8 traits that most all narcissists have.

Are Friends the Enemies of Wise Choices?

Could your friends be causing you to make bad choices? Avoid this problem with a few tips from this piece.

Sticky, Tricky, and Icky: Unconscious Parent-Child Dynamics

Emotional abandonment may manifest in parental coldness, but when the dynamic is operative, both parent and young child believe it is they who are internally, irreparably flawed.

Rising Toxic Masculinity and Authoritarianism in America

By Ray Williams on August 17, 2017 in Wired for Success
Toxic masculinity, authoritarianism, and the militarization of America threaten the foundations of democracy.

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust, Part I

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.

Separation Theory

Early interpersonal pain, separation anxiety, and death anxiety lead to the formation of powerful psychological defenses that limit a person’s capacity for living and feeling.

Help Rejecting, Complaining Victims of Troublesome Spouses

How should you respond to a friend who is always complaining to you about their mate, but rejects any suggestion you make to them about how to handle their relationship?

Counseling a Person With a Multiple Personality Disorder

Dissociation is a coping mechanism. A person literally dissociates himself from a situation that's too violent, traumatic or painful to assimilate with his conscious self.

12 Ways of Seeing Your Entanglement With a Narcissist

Seeing patterns objectively—yours and the narcissist's—is as important as acknowledging your feelings.

The Secret Life of Procrastinators and the Stigma of Delay

Rather than shame procrastinators for the way they get things done, instead let's understand motivational style differences.

Personality and Potential Nuclear Confrontation

By Ian H. Robertson Ph.D. on August 12, 2017 in The Stress Test
The possible catastrophe of nuclear war rests on the psychology of just two men

An In-depth Analysis of the Crisis at Google

The crisis at Google in the wake of the Damore memo controversy is an unfortunate symptom of our hyperpolarized society. This post explains how to understand it and move forward.

Who's More Emotionally Intelligent, and Does Gender Matter?

Are women really poorly suited for careers in tech? One Google engineer’s claims got him fired. The facts based on personality research prove that Google made the right decision.
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What Is Mental Illness? Does Trump Have One?

When the term "mentally ill" is used to describe President Trump, is the term being used appropriately?
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Deep Listening in Personal Relationships

By Diana Raab PhD on August 09, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Are you trying to get to a deeper level with your personal relationships? Do you want to know how to become a better listener?

Does a Person "Break Bad"?

Let's examine the premise of a smash hit entertainment series.

Less Labeling, More Understanding

He's probably not a narcissist, and you probably aren't being gaslighted. When can we start dealing with human behavior on its own terms?

I'm Not In The Mood

We all wake up to a new day. The question is, will our mood for the day control how the day goes or do we control the mood. What will be your mood for the day? Happy or grumpy?
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Why Socializing Drains Introverts More Than Extroverts

There are some very real differences between introverts and extroverts, and these differences come down to how they respond to rewards.

Why You Didn't Get What You Needed From Narcissistic Parents

The effects of emotional neglect by narcissistic parents are particularly pernicious and difficult to acknowledge, let alone overcome.

Imperfection Makes Celebrities (and All of Us) More Likable

By Christopher Bergland on August 05, 2017 in The Athlete's Way
The attractiveness of imperfection is called the Pratfall Effect. Buddhists realized that imperfection is a beautiful thing eons ago. Justin Bieber recently had the same epiphany.

The Internet Is a Narcissist’s Paradise

Do you have narcissistic tendencies? How does the Interment affect you?

Narcissism and Capacity for Change

By Dianne Grande Ph.D. on August 01, 2017 in In It Together
Might some narcissists benefit from therapy?

Synesthesia Ink

By Maureen Seaberg on August 01, 2017 in Sensorium
A Portuguese musician gets a sensory tattoo...

Just How Far Will a Narcissist Go to Hide Failure?

Experiencing failure is not an option for people high in narcissism. New research shows the lengths they'll go to so they can avoid confronting their weaknesses.

How to Thrive in a VUCA World

Tips for Thriving in a Volatile, Uncertain, Complex, and Ambiguous (VUCA) World!
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6 Inner Resources You Didn't Know You Had

Character strengths come in many shapes and sizes. Lost strengths. Happiness strengths. How might you use each category of strengths to make the most of your life?

Are You a Highly Sensitive Person? Should You Change?

The brain areas associated with high sensitivity are the same ones involved when expressing empathy. You can benefit from your high sensitivity by selecting the right environment.

Are We All Becoming More Self-Centered?

What does a "me first" attitude and rising narcissism mean for our future and for the planet?

Are You Happy With Your Character Resume?

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on July 26, 2017 in Think Well
A lot of people place excessive importance on material "success." They use money, things, and achievements as their metrics of choice. Here's why many of them are unhappy.