What's In Your Mind?

Believe in realistic thinking. Life is often hard but try to focus on the good facts in life. Let them become good experiences and let them really sink in.

What Do You Need?

Daily life is full of opportunities to notice or create experiences of inner strength, a psychological resource. Take it into yourself, making it a part of you.

Kindness to You Is Kindness to Me

For better or worse, what you do to others ripples back to you; what you do to yourself ripples out to others. Recognizing this will change the lives of others for the better.

Drop the "Shoulds"

Consider a situation that bothers you, and find a deeper "should" that's related to an experience you "must" have or avoid. Face the should, ask this question: "Is it really true?"

Are You Feeling Cross?

These three things will help guide you to find peace.

Are You Working Together?

Minor differences in parenting style are okay. But children get confused when there are major differences. Here are five ways to work effectively and get the best possible results.

What's to Like?

We're wired to like some things but our liking or disliking depends a lot on what we pay attention to and on our own perspective.

Be Home

The responsive and reactive modes of living are the foundation of human nature. We have no choice about the vital aims they serve. Our only choice is which mode we’re in.

Can You Be With The Whole Of Your Psyche?

R.A.I.N. is an acronym developed by Michelle McDonald but adapted a bit by me, to summarize a powerful way to expand self-awareness.
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Are You Thinking Too Much?

Our minds are hauled along in a culture without a speed limit – exceeding the limit there's always a price. Pulling out of the mental traffic, it's an act of freedom and wisdom

Who’s Left Off Your Gift List?

Let gifts flow over the one you have the most power and the highest duty of—the one with your name.

Are You Self-Nurturing?

Stress builds up over time, so it's important to do small things throughout the day to keep the stress meter in the "green zone." There are many ways to lower stress.

Are You Taking Care of Yourself?

Make sure they are getting enough sleep and that they are eating correctly, doing exercise regularly, avoiding health hazards, and having regular checkups.

Can You Take A Moment?

Stop the urgency of the day and let a quiet fill the air let your thoughts slow down. There is presence in this moment, and no worries about the future.

What Are You Doing?

Relentless pace of doing wears down mental and physical health. What you need to do while refreshing is have a sense of choice. See if you can feel choice and how it feels.

What's Left Out?

With moments of practice that add up over time. You will feel more fulfilled and less defended, separated from others – and more connected, more entwined with the world as whole.

What Would Bear Lots of Fruit?

What's on your short list of things that support you? Try to do one thing on the list each day. "Pass forward" a gift to the person you will be tomorrow...and a year from now.

What Does Your Heart Say?

Try to focus less on how others should be, and focus more on your own practice of finding your own genuine love. It's like strengthening your heart.

Do You Got To?

If you can't say "no" - to others, and yourself - then your "yesses" will lose their meaning and power. Claim for yourself the “freedom not to” it will give you a feeling of ease.

When Are You?

The present moment is continually passing away, so if you try to hold onto it you are no longer in the present. Relax and be open to this moment. Stop being lost in thought.

Does It Feel Safe With Other People?

Even if the other person reacts to you, you could handle it fine. If there is something to deal with — conflict, betrayal — you can be clear-eyed and strong, without being anxious.

Out of Balance?

Think of sobriety in terms of the big picture, and in the context of a life well-lived. Sobriety is a gain—of health, self-respect, unclouded mind, peace with others and bliss.

What's Precious to You?

Try to identify what is sacred to you. Maybe you already know. You could also find a place or time that is peaceful or meaningful. Different answers come to different people.
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Is Life Hard?

The more difficult your life, the more you need to take care of yourself. Know that difficulties will come and go but your own good qualities and good things in life will remain.

What Helps You Carry Your Load?

How you feel and function is based on your load, personal vulnerabilities, and resources. If your load or vulnerabilities increase, so must your resources.

What's the Hurry?

Be mindful of rushing—your own and others. See how other people assume deadlines that aren't actually real, or feel pressured and intense about things that aren't that important.

Where Are You Headed?

Everyday life is entangling. What's the light that will guide you out of your own tangled woods, both the woods "out there" in the world and the ones "in here," in your own mind?

Are You Getting Rope Burn?

As you cling less, it becomes natural for one to lighten up, stay out of quarrels, have more compassion, and forgive. You'll feel more fed by the richness inherent in the present.

Is Your Mind Wandering?

Controlling your attention, by pulling it away from what's bothersome or pointless (such as mental grumbling or self-criticism) is the foundation for changing your brain.

What Can You Do When Nothing Is Working?

Sometimes it helps to change the channel, shake things up, distract yourself, rest or enjoy something. A respite or some sort of pleasure will help to refuel you for challenges.