The problem with being stuck in a rut is, well, you’re stuck in a rut. The more stuck you are, the deeper the groove of the rut and the more likely you will find a comfortable place in it. It’s a vicious cycle where the comfort grows to stay put, but the agitation grows from knowing you really ought to do something. This could be getting out of a bad relationship, moving from an abusive boss or a degrading job, reconciling with friends or family members, getting on a diet and exercise program once and for all, or pursuing the hobby or passion you’ve talked about for years.
The years can roll on and you wake up each day thinking “This is the day” but then just outside your bedroom door lies the rut. You might trip into it on your way out to start your day, and it follows you around and grows deeper with every hour you don’t make the change you want to.
If you are like most people, the cycle continues whereby you beat up on yourself for not taking the right steps, and start using negative self-talk like “I’ll never,” “I can’t,” and “I’m a failure.” And this serves to keep you firmly cemented in that rut without the motivation or energy to do anything new. Science has proven that there are physiological changes which happen when we move out of a stasis and into something new, and this can cause us to pause and freeze because the changes mean a number of real shifts are happening internally too—so it’s not just the external experiences that cause a reaction, but the internal ones, too. You might want to learn more about how your brain works and the different facets, to understand ways you can leverage your natural abilities to your advantage!
While your brain is building up additional Dopamine to help you with focus and attention, there are some physical, external steps you can take to ignite that spark even when you are in the rut and may lack the oomph needed to get moving. Please keep in mind that if you are severely depressed, or unable to take steps due to overwhelming anxiety, you should consult a mental health professional right away. There are conditions that may require medication or therapy, and many people benefit from this type of support.
But if you are someone who knows you can do it, you just aren’t doing it, and you need to get that motivation and commitment going to take the steps you need, here are some things to do to get you back on track.