Gretchen Rubin

Habit Strategies and Tips for Rebels

Rebels want to do what they want to do, in their own way, in their own time.
Samantha, flickr

A Mother’s Brilliant Strategy for Dealing with a Rebel Child

As an Upholder myself, I’ve certainly gained tremendously from studying the Rebel perspective. We’re more free than we think.
Véronique Debord-Lazaro, flickr

Do You Face These Common Problems in Happiness and Habits?

Perhaps it seems unlikely, but it’s true — the Four Tendencies framework sheds light on all these questions.

Want to Change an Important Habit?

Do you want to make a significant change in your life? Or help someone else to make an important change?
Gretchen Rubin

Some Thoughts on My Daughter’s High School Graduation

What I want most for my daughter and all these kids is for them to go forth unafraid, strong with love and strong with learning.
Mike Hales, flickr

Buying Towels and a Moment of Self-reflection

It’s not a Peter Pan, refusing-to-accept-responsibility feeling; it’s that feeling that nothing is yet real or permanent, but that someday, it will become real and permanent.
Jake Rustenhoven, flickr

I Give My Own Response to the “Ask Amy” Advice Column

To my mind, the writer’s problem is not “I’m lazy,” it’s “I need accountability.”
University Leicester, flickr

My Best Advice for Graduates: 12 Tips for a Happy Life

What advice would you give to a graduate?
Angelo Benedetto, flickr

Struggling to Get Something Done?

Whenever an Obliger struggles to get something done, the solution is always the same: external accountability. It’s just a question of figuring out what form it’s going to take.
airpix, flickr

Warning! Don’t Expect to Be Motivated by Motivation

Instead of thinking about motivation, I argue that we should think about aims, and then concrete, practical, realistic steps to take us closer to our aims.

Like Me, Do You Get the Urge to Do Spring Cleaning?

Creating outer order gives a huge boost in energy, cheer, and creativity.
jessica wilson, flickr

For the International Day of Happiness

If someone asked you, “What’s the most important thing you’ve learned about happiness?” what would you answer?
teflonvw, flickr

Want to View the World With Fresh Eyes?

What hooks do you use to help yourself see the world more vividly?
Bryan Sherwood, flickr

“My Highest Ambition Is To Be What I Already Am.”

What is self-acceptance, really? Or self-knowledge? A mystery.
Martin Pilote flickr

7 Types of Loneliness, and Why It Matters

It’s important to realize why we feel lonely, because only then can we see how we might address it.
Guy Sie, flickr

Do You Hate to Rush?

By figuring out easy, quick ways to make it faster to head out the door, we can give ourselves a bigger margin of time.
MoToMo, flickr

For Valentine’s Day: 7 Mistakes I Keep Making in Romance...

Ancient philosophers and contemporary scientists agree: a key to happiness is strong relationships, and if we’re in a romantic relationship, it has a big influence on our happiness
Gretchen Rubin

A Happy Memory: the “Stripey House” of Kansas City.

Remembering that funny house brought back happy memories, of all those car trips to the mall with my sister and mother.

Like January 1 or a Birthday...

Certain days, such as January 1 or the celebration of a birthday, often remind us to reflect on our lives and our hopes for the future.
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Want to Keep a New Year’s Resolution?

When we know ourselves, we can set up a resolution in the way that’s right for us. It’s not that hard to keep our resolutions, and to change our habits — when we know what to do.
unreasoned dreams, flickr

What Makes the Perfect Gift? Probably Not What You Think.

Take these tips into consideration when you're seeking the perfect gift this holiday season.

How to Have a Happy Thanksgiving with Difficult Relatives

Here are some strategies for keeping Thanksgiving dinner — or any holiday gathering, at any time of the year — pleasant.
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The Smell of a Hallway Taught Me Something Important

For some reason, this hallway smelled exactly like the hospital where I worked as a candy-striper in high school.
Shoichi Masuhara, flickr

How to Get an Extra Hour in Your Day

This is the right way to use the end of Daylight Savings Time, and to build momentum for the months ahead.
Gretchen Rubin

I Forgot to Take My Own Advice

Celebrating minor holidays is one way to make time stand out. Because this day was unusual, it’s more memorable.

Have to Give a Toast, Speech, or Presentation?

Fear of public speaking or performance is a big happiness stumbling block.
Lawrence Barattini, flickr

The Most Effective Way to Convince People to Evacuate?

How might a mayor word an evacuation notice, to persuade people of all Four Tendencies?
Pam Lane, flickr

Back to School:

The question is: how can we help children form habits that will help them handle this load, without our constant nagging and supervising?
da ho, flickr

7 Tips for Clearing Clutter in the Office

Outer order contributes to inner calm — for most people. But not for everyone.