Magical Thinking and Unloved Daughters: Childhood and Beyond

What helps you escape from an unhappy childhood—the power of your imagination–may get in the way of your recovery in adulthood.

Starved for Affection: How Childhood Experiences Define Love

The culture tells us to stop whining about childhood and to "move on." But we'll keep repeating the patterns of the past if we can't see them.

The Ugly Truth About Mothers and Scapegoating

While it seems counterintuitive, scapegoating makes a mother believe that her dysfunctional family is actually healthy and stable, and bullying tends to solidify bonding.

Is Your Mother Narcissistic or Controlling?

It's true that children whose emotional needs weren't met by their mothers share common ground, but there are still important differences that affect individual development.

Five Reasons You Have to Stop Excusing Verbal Abuse

It took widely publicized teen suicides to open our eyes to the fact that bullying wasn't a normal passage in childhood. When will the culture do the same for verbal abuse?

When Your Boss Is a Bully or Worse: What Can You Do?

Our working lives take up a lot of time and, sometimes, emotional space. What to do when your work is wrecking your state of mind?

The Psychology of Revenge (and Vengeful People)

Is revenge really sweet? And what makes people vengeful? Does playing tit for tat make you feel better? Or not? The science of revenge.

Why Unloved Daughters Struggle to Escape Shame

Shame plays many roles in an unloved daughter's life, especially on the road to recovery when the cultural notion of filial obligation becomes yet another obstacle.

The Trophy Child

One of the most cherished myths about motherhood is that mothers love each child equally. Research comes up with a very different answer. A close look at why favoritism matters.

Unloved Daughters and the One Question You Must Stop Asking

It's the question that every daughter of an unloving mother wants answered but it's really a blind alley.

The Psychology of Watching April the Giraffe

What has so many people totally obsessed with a pregnant giraffe? Why can't they look away from April?

Daughters of Unloving Mothers: Mourning What You Deserved

Recovering from a pain-filled and difficult childhood is a long journey for most but there's one step that's often overlooked or ignored: Grieving for the mother you didn't have.

The Brutal Truth About 6 Types of "Quiet" Verbal Abuse

Most people associate verbal abuse with yelling and shouting and while that's sometimes true, it isn't always. Quiet abuse may actually do more damage.

6 Things You Need to Know About Empathy

What makes one person empathic and another not?

8 Strategies for Dealing With the Toxic People in Your Life

Are you in a relationship that actively makes you feel terrible about yourself? This primer will help you handle the toxic folks you encounter.

Should You Forgive Your Unloving Mother?

The ability to forgive is considered a sign of character and even strength. But is it always the right thing to do, especially when an unloving mother is involved?

The Enduring Pain of Childhood Verbal Abuse

Research confirms that childhood psychological abuse does lasting, significant damage.

The Crisis of the Ailing Toxic Mother: Caretake or Run?

Much has been written about the "Sandwich" generation-but the daughter of an unloving or abusive mother faces a different, more complicated choice without easy answers...

Is He or She an Addict First? Or a Narcissist First?

When someone you love is addicted, your first impulse may be to offer all the support and empathy you can. But is this always the right thing to do?

Should You Salvage Your Relationship With Mom?

The plight of the unloved daughter remains a societal secret, kept under wraps and rarely acknowledged. But many of us don't get our emotional needs met in childhood.

5 Steps to Reclaim Your Life After a Bad Divorce

There's no question that divorce can be a pivotal event in your life. Here's what to do to help yourself recover.

Why It's So Hard to See This Form of Childhood Abuse

Our culture is resistant to the idea that some mothers actively undermine their children. That resistance doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

The 6 Talks a Couple Needs to Have Before Marriage

You and your partner should tackle these six important topics before you tie the knot.

Why Recovering From the Narcissist in Your Life Is So Hard

Getting over a failed relationship or going through a divorce is always hard, but when a narcissist is in the mix, the process is always more difficult.

Unloved Daughters: The Dance of Denial

Confronting painful childhood experiences is something many people resist, including those with complicated mother-daughter relationships.

The Communal Narcissist: Another Wolf Wearing a Sheep Outfit

This type of narcissist can be subtle and hard to spot. Here's where to look for them.

13 Essential Tips if You Are Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorce is hard enough under any circumstances, especially if there are children in the mix, but divorcing a narcissist can be hell on earth. Here's what you should prepare for.

Surviving Mother's Day: 5 Strategies to Get Through

Yes, it's supposed to be a celebration. But for some women and men, it's one of the most difficult days in the year.

6 Reasons It's Easy to Be Fooled by a Narcissist

What is it about these people? Why are we drawn to them only be smashed and broken? Why don't we see it coming? Here's why....

How Children of Unloving Mothers Can Find Self-Compassion

Why is it so hard to turn off that critical voice in your head? Taking a close look at self-criticism—and how self-compassion can help.

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