12 Ways to Get Past No

It IS possible to say "No" in a way that honors your own truth, while still staying in positive contact with your child.

5 Tools to Heal Your Ability to Love Unconditionally

Before we can experience unconditional love from outside, or give it to our children, we need to give it to ourselves.

How to Break the Cycle of Shame With Your Child

The more empathic you are as you set the limit, the more your child will accept the limit, and WANT to shift gears to channel his impulses into more acceptable behavior.

When Your Child Gets Angry: Here's Your Gameplan

Children develop emotional intelligence when we teach them that all their feelings are okay, but they always have a choice about how they act.

What If Your Child Chooses to Do Wrong?

Punishment drives the feelings underground and makes the bad behavior worse. Healing the feelings that are driving the behavior is what prevents a repeat of the misbehavior.

How Children Learn Right from Wrong

When children feel close to their parents, they want to "follow" them. Going against their parents would be going against the most important people in their lives.

10 Ways to Love the One You're With

The hard work for us as parents is accepting who our child is, including the things we wish we could change and cherishing him or her for being that person.
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When You and Your Child Need Some First Aid Fast

When you're hurt, or scared, you naturally want to lash out. But your child is not the enemy, no matter what she did.

Want to Change Your Child? Start by Regulating Your Emotions

You can only change yourself, which changes how the other person responds to you. So as you change, your child changes.

The secret of NOT Yelling When You're Having a Bad Day

So when you notice that you're feeling irritable, no shame, no blame. That's just part of being human. We all have hard days.

When Your Child Snarls at You, Could You Just Offer Love?

No, you’re not teaching your child that she can get away with being rude. You’re teaching her that you’re a safe haven and she never needs or wants to lash out at you like that.

An Experiment: Your Child, Thriving, in 30 Days.

When you see what's getting in the way for your child, you can give her the support she needs to feel, and act, better.

It Only Takes Ten Minutes to Stop Your Child's Whining

if you don't take this time to address the root of the whining, your child will almost certainly still be whining in ten minutes.

3 Simple Ways You and Your Child Can Be Happier

Nothing has to be different for you to love yourself, wholly and completely, exactly as you are. Nothing is stopping you from being happier, starting today.

What if Your Child Crosses the Line?

How to teach your children so they learn that they are loved unconditionally.

When Love and Attention Just Aren't Enough

You'll be amazed at how affectionate and cooperative your little guy is after you "hear and see" his feelings.

Everybody's Got a Hungry Heart

But any age sibling can be a threat. Think about it. Your child has to share the sometimes scare resource of your time and attention. A sibling means he gets less.

Do Sticker Charts Work for Crimes of Passion?

The problem is that those mad, sad feelings have to go someplace, and the sticker is not going to be enough motivation for a child who is not even three yet.

When You Pee on Your Brother, You've Gone Too Far

I don't think a sticker chart—or a spanking—will work. Why? They don't get to the root of the problem. The root of the problem is that Mom got a replacement for him.

5 Ways to Reconnect With Your Child When Having a Bad Day

Kids often need physical "refueling" to feel connected, so the easiest way to reconnect is often to grab a book and snuggle on the couch reading to them for a few minutes.

Feeling Irritable? 5 Steps to Shift Into a Better Place

What if your child is being really difficult, maybe even impossible? You can't change your child directly, but you CAN change your own reaction.

8 Things You Can Do When Your Child Is Belligerent

Kids learn much more from what we do than from what we say. If your default tone is respectful, that will be your child's default tone as well.

Choose Love

When we refuse to visit our own pain on our child, we aren't only choosing love for our child. We're also choosing love for ourselves. We're breaking the cycle. We're healing.

What if You Set a Limit and Your Child Ignores It?

Don't try to give instructions or requests from across the room. Move in close. Touch her arm, make a comment on what she's doing to connect with her, then set your limit.

Using Gratitude to Change Your Happiness Set Point

Gratitude doesn't mean you don't take action to change things that aren't working. But you'll do that better from the feeling of goodness that gratitude gives us.

Your Magic Wand for Less Drama, More Love

What if you could create that deep loving connection as your (almost) constant way of being with your child? It would be like giving yourself a magic wand.

Win-Win Parenting When It All Falls Apart

It starts by extending compassion to ourselves, which we can do when we Stop, Drop and Breathe. Just stop. Drop your agenda. Take a deep breath.

10 Tips for Peaceful Teaching

Children see themselves reflected in our eyes, and they assume we're right about who they are. Most adults have a story about a teacher who made a big difference in our lives.

How to Give Your Child a Rich Life

Nobody wants to raise a child who thinks the world owes him, who feels like he’s entitled to take whatever he wants.

Handling Defiance: You're Not the Boss of Me!

Because a defiant child is rejecting the parent as leader, at least at this moment, defiance also indicates that the child feels disconnected from the parent.

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