Reacting and Responding

The distinction between reacting and responding is an important one and one I have emphasized in my psychotherapy and counseling practice.

Patient-Doctor Communication

When patients control more of the doctor-patient conversation, they often have better medical outcomes.

Self-Blame or Self-Inquiry?

While self-blame is something to avoid, a self-inquiry into what they might have done to contribute to an unfortunate circumstance might prove extremely helpful.

The Problem with Anger

How can we use anger to strengthen communication and enhance our relationships?

Listening Patience

On several occasions, I have observed patients who seemed to be listening when I was talking to them, but left me doubtful about just how much they actually heard.

I Can't Afford That

Are we substituting financial concern for something unrelated?

Road and Sideline Rage

What to do if you’re a person or parent subject to misplaced anger and aggression.

Locus of Control

How do we determine our successes and failures?

Handling Rather than Avoiding

Directly handling matters will always be a more effective response than avoidance.

Thinking Instead of Doing

Your “plan of action” may be plan-heavy, but action-light…or without any action at all!

Hardiness and Grit

One might argue that any therapy has as an implicit objective to help the individual acquire the characteristics associated with hardiness.

Problem or Condition?

Psychotherapy and counseling are more effective endeavors when someone is actively engaged in the process, believing that change, where possible, is the objective.

Fears, Beliefs, and Facts

Whether one is an optimist by nature or a pessimist instead, it is important to keep perspective—especially under stressful or ambiguous circumstances.

I HATE Making Decisions

Why can decision-making be so troubling?

Saying “I’m Sorry”

Many people seem to find saying “I’m sorry” an extremely difficult thing to offer. Here are four guidelines for an effective apology.

Why Some People Just Won't Commit

Problems arise for certain individuals—and the people they invite or allow into their lives—when they are unsure or confused about their needs in a romantic partnership.

5 Reasons People Stay in Unhappy Relationships

Why do people choose to remain in a unsatisfying relationships—even when they know it's not the right thing to do?

Surviving the Current Presidential Election Experience

There are a few ways of coping with a currently tense relationship that has become so because of irreconcilable political differences.

7 Essential Keys to a Successful Relationship

Through my work, I have had the satisfaction of seeing positive outcomes when two people work hard at relationship self-improvement.

Married Bachelors, Married Bachelorettes

How might a person, married to someone they love and with whom they are happy, be unhappy being married? And how can they successfully address it?

How Could They Have Said That?

Sometimes condolences can hurt more than help.

Why Unsolicited Advice Can Ruin Relationships

Many times people who request advice don't really want it. And, perhaps surprisingly, unsolicited advice can harm a relationship rather than strengthen it.