Understanding Shyness

Shyness is the awkwardness or apprehension some people feel when approaching or being approached by other people. Unlike introverts, who feel energized by time alone, shy people often desperately want to connect with others, but don't know how or can't tolerate the anxiety that comes with human interaction.

Recent posts on Shyness

Top Networking Tips for the Shy, Awkward, and Introverted

By Andy Molinsky Ph.D. on August 05, 2017 in Adaptation
Top Networking Tips for the Shy, Awkward, and Introverted

7 Ways to Say “No” if You're Introverted or Shy

Often there’s a fear of rejection or a desire to avoid confrontation.

Five Common Friendship Challenges for Children

By Andrea Bonior Ph.D. on June 30, 2017 in Friendship 2.0
No child's social life is perfect, and friendship dilemmas are common. Navigating them healthily can make the difference in your child's long-term happiness. Here's how to help.

Six Ways to Help Your Child Shift from Shyness to Confidence

By Suzanne Gelb Ph.D., JD on June 30, 2017 in All Grown Up
Parents! Here are 6 simple ways to help your child shift from shyness to confidence.

Loving Someone with an Anxiety Disorder

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on June 29, 2017 in Shyness Is Nice
Here's a to-do list for when you love someone with an anxiety disorder.

A Quick and Painless Way to Manage Social Anxiety

One of the most common forms of anxiety people experience involves an extreme fear of being judged by others. Find out how you can identify and cope with social anxiety’s symptoms.

What Older Dads Need To Know

Are geeks taking over the world? The sons of older fathers are more geeky, and do better academically in success-predicting academics. The "Geek Index" helps us study geekiness.

Feeling Powerful Changes How We Respond to Being Stared At

Perceiving ourselves to be higher in status can buffer us from feeling intimidated.

Why Is ASD Often Associated with Social Anxiety?

"We can say that all, if not most people diagnosed with ASD have remarkable issues with social interactions, however not all people on the spectrum end up with social anxiety."

5 Best Topics for Polite Conversation (and Bonus Tips!)

With a few questions, you can learn something significant about a person's life.

Social Anxiety in Toddlers

Social confidence varies from one child to another, and across time and situations. Parents can help their kids cope with social anxiety, and enjoy social interactions.

Can Social Skills Be Taught?

By Joe Moran, Ph.D. on April 24, 2017 in The Secret Life of Shyness
Can social skills be taught? We can learn how to communicate with each other better, but shyness is often very persistent.

Genetics Play a Role in Social Anxiety Disorder, Study Finds

A new study has pinpointed a genetic link between social anxiety disorder (SAD) and a serotonin transporter gene called "SLC6A4."

Avoidant Personality Disorder

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 08, 2017 in A Sideways View
How can you best help and understand those with Avoidant Personality Disorder?

The Shy Child

Do not force your child to speak.

The Power of Small Talk

By Joe Moran, Ph.D. on February 26, 2017 in The Secret Life of Shyness
Small talk is not an empty ritual: it's a vital life skill that even the shy have to learn.
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The Etiquette of Hugging

By Joe Moran, Ph.D. on January 25, 2017 in The Secret Life of Shyness
Shy people struggle with the etiquette of hugging, but it may not always be a route to greater intimacy, empathy, and understanding.

Barriers to Applied Evolutionary Psychology

Applied evolutionary psychologists run the risk of being accused of making the naturalistic fallacy or of doing agenda-driven research. Here is how to smile at the critics.

4 Ways to Overcome Shyness

By Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. on December 31, 2016 in Living Forward
Shyness can sabotage your personal and professional life. These strategies will help you reduce your anxiety and improve your social skills.
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The Secrets of Shyness

By Joe Moran, Ph.D. on December 20, 2016 in The Secret Life of Shyness
Being shy is not just about being fearful or timid. Shyness takes many forms, and is part of what makes us human.

Why Hasn't He Called?

By Fredric Neuman M.D. on December 16, 2016 in Fighting Fear
An exploration of the reasons why someone may not call back after a great first date. Some of the reasons are discoverable—and may be important.

Social Media, Loneliness, and Anxiety in Young People

By Graham C.L. Davey Ph.D. on December 15, 2016 in Why We Worry
Even with a good-sized social network, users face added stressors and feelings of disconnectedness.

New Research Reveals Neural Roots of Social Anxiety

People with social anxiety disorder have an extreme fear of new social objects or situations. New neuroscience research shows how observational learning plays into this fear.

A Game of Lunch and Love

By Joachim I Krueger Ph.D. on December 05, 2016 in One Among Many
When your joy of consumption depends on the other person’s wishes, you better get to know him (or her).

Social Anxiety: A Single-Session Cure

My patient never returned. Her father called four days later, delighted to report that I had “worked a miracle.” Yet I see what happened as a failure on my part.

In What Ways Do Socially Anxious Adults Suffer?

By Todd B. Kashdan Ph.D. on November 22, 2016 in Curious?
New research on touch as a neglected emotional experience that offers insights into the difficulties of individuals suffering from social anxiety problems.
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Biology Determines Every Thought, Feeling, and Behavior

By John A. Johnson Ph.D. on October 20, 2016 in Cui Bono
Psychologists say behavior results from the interaction of biology and environment, yet argue about their relative importance. Read why the importance of biology is always 100%.

Understanding and Treating Selective Mutism

By Barbara Markway Ph.D. on October 13, 2016 in Shyness Is Nice
Does your child speak freely and easily at home, but not at school or other public places? Find out if your child has selective mutism, a childhood anxiety disorder.

Ten Tips for Happiness

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on October 07, 2016 in Emotional Fitness
Happiness can be hard to feel at times, so don’t think there is something wrong with you if you don’t feel it.

17 Ways to Fix this Common Type of Social Anxiety

Extreme fear of public speaking is one of the most prevalent form of anxiety disorders. New research shows how you can test, and overcome yours.