All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Can You Sue Someone Over a Broken Promise?

By Ruth Lee Johnson J.D. on August 18, 2017 in So Sue Me
Have you ever relied on someone's promise, only to be hurt when that promise was broken? Promissory estoppel is the little-known legal doctrine that holds people to their word.

25 Simple Self-Care Tools for Weary Parents

By Erin Leyba LCSW, Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Joyful Parenting
Many parents are exhausted and overworked. These ideas offer ways to engage in self-care, renew your energy, tune into feelings, and strengthen relationships in 10 minutes or less.

1-on-1 Opposite Sex Friends: A Blind Spot Threat to Marriage

By Zack Carter Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Clear Communication
Check your mirrors. Giving up friendship freedom may save your marriage. Here's five tips on how to manage friendships with the opposite sex without compromising your marriage.

Understanding Why Bachelorette Rachel Chose Bryan

By Goal Auzeen Saedi Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Millennial Media
Since the Bachelorette finale weeks ago, speculation and rumors are still flying regarding whether or not Rachel made the right choice. Read on for one psychologist's take.

A Simpler Way to Get Along Without Asking About Feelings

By Kimberly Key on August 18, 2017 in Counseling Keys
Some people, and lots of men, have been raised not to feel and are at a loss when they are asked to identify a feeling. Or worse, they have been abused for their feelings.

A New Toxic Trend in Relationships: Is Yours at Risk?

Do you look to your partner to support for your own self-expression? A cultural trend is having unforeseen consequences for couples.

A Good Marriage Is Better Than Therapy

A loving marriage can heal old emotional wounds more effectively than the best therapy. At its best, psychotherapy creates a warm and understanding relationship.
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The Hero's Journey

Can you take the pain out of painful relationships?

When Your Boss Is a Bully or Worse: What Can You Do?

By Peg Streep on August 18, 2017 in Tech Support
Our working lives take up a lot of time and, sometimes, emotional space. What to do when your work is wrecking your state of mind?

How Our Bodies Age, Part 5

Does sexuality have to decline as we age? Maybe in this regard aging is a myth. We grow old in other people's eyes and eventually they convince us of that fact.

Why Divorced People Are Key to Understanding Marriage

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on August 18, 2017 in Living Single
A study of 10,000 Dutch adults looked at the health of married people to see if it had anything to do with who got divorced. Did it ever.

A Simple Tool for Greater Relationship Satisfaction

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on August 18, 2017 in ExperiMentations
In today's hectic, sometimes lonely, day and age, proven tools to increase passion and relationship satisfaction are a sought after commodity. Research is illuminating, and useful.
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It’s Not Your Fault

If you were abused, know that it’s not your fault, you aren’t damaged, and you have a chance to live a meaningful life.

Give Me Back My Keys!

To build a new life, it's time to take back the keys from your ex and step out of the self-constructed prison of the past.

Anger Over Trump’s Words Harms Our Health: Can We Forgive?

By Rita Watson MPH on August 17, 2017 in With Love and Gratitude
If we are angry about Trump's Charlottesville words, we can instead cling to the words of Nelson Mandela, as cited by Barack Obama in the most liked tweet in Twitter history.

Mental Health Principles from the Wisdom of Psychotherapy

In thinking about a value system based on psychotherapeutic principles, I began to consider some guidelines that might be of value for achieving a freer, more satisfying existence.

The Unselfish Art of Prioritizing Yourself

By Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 17, 2017 in Compassion Matters
Maintaining a certain regard for ourselves, doing things we want to do, and engaging in self-care are fundamental to creating a good life for ourselves and the people we love.
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The Ecstasy that Comes with Balance

My husband and I have interviewed is that one of the reasons they are enjoying their relationship so thoroughly is because they are fluid, experimental, and creative....

Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust, Part I

The Roadblocks to Intimacy and Trust Series explores the impact of early childhood relationships on the establishment of intimacy in adulthood.
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Managing Your Life in a Dysfunctional Relationship

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on August 16, 2017 in Fixing Families
Dysfunctional relationships, whether they are filled with anger or addiction or mental illness, often create a flood of contradictory emotions within you. Tips on how to navigate.

Infidelity Vs Addiction: What Is the Difference?

Is your partner a sex addict, or just a cheater?

Fantasies of Other Lovers? Relax, Almost Everyone Has Them

By Michael Castleman M.A. on August 15, 2017 in All About Sex
While making love with your honey, do you have erotic fantasies of other lovers? If not, you're unusual.

Help Rejecting, Complaining Victims of Troublesome Spouses

How should you respond to a friend who is always complaining to you about their mate, but rejects any suggestion you make to them about how to handle their relationship?

When Weddings Hurt

Insight into why weddings might be particularly fraught for women.

Why Can't I Let Go of You?

By Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 15, 2017 in Rediscovering Love
The 10 most common reasons why people can’t let go of a lost relationship.

Four Reasons Women Cheat on Their Partners

Faithfulness to one’s partner is at the bedrock of most committed relationships. A recent study shows how women justify the cognitive dissonance caused by having an affair.

Seven Warning Signs of Potentially Toxic Relationships

If you have the misfortune to find yourself in a toxic relationship, the “normal response” to an “abnormal situation” can include feelings of suffocation, trepidation, and shame.

If I Can't Have You, No One Can

How can we predict who will kill someone s/he once loved? Look at the dark clouds in the relationship to predict storms after a breakup.

Does "Tough Love" Produce Better Working Dogs?

Puppies with overly attentive mothers have poorer problem-solving abilities and are less likely to succeed as service dogs.

How to Manage Your Emotions

By Rob Kendall on August 14, 2017 in Blamestorming
In the heat of the moment, our emotions can get the better of us. This raises a serious question: Am I in charge of my emotions, or are they in charge of me?