All About Relationships

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but most people seek its expression in a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. A great deal of evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship begins in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Those relationships are not destiny, but they appear to establish patterns of relating to others. Failed relationships happen for many reasons, and the failure of a relationship is often a source of great psychological anguish. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish.

Recent posts on Relationships

Facts, Truths, Beliefs, Opinions, and "Alternative Facts"

By Clifford N Lazarus Ph.D. on March 25, 2017 in Think Well
In this time of "alternative facts," it's helpful to consider the difference among actual facts, truths, beliefs, preferences and opinions.

Taking A Step Back Could Save Your Relationship

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on March 25, 2017 in Between You and Me
Looking at disagreements from the view of an outside observer provides new insights that just might change the course of your relationship.

Believing in Sexual Compatibility Can Sour Your Sex Life

The satisfaction we derive from sex is largely influenced by the attitudes we hold about how it should play out with our partner(s).

Love at First Sight: New Research on Who's Attracted to Whom

Whether or not you believe in love at first sight, there’s a case to be made for instant attraction. New research on speed-dating shows how personality affects romantic choices.

Do You Ever Feel That You're Not Interesting Enough?

In the book and film "About a Boy," the main adult character comes to realize that his life of leisure and pleasure may prevent him from finding love. What can we learn from this?

Interpersonal Attraction

By Adrian Furnham Ph.D. on March 24, 2017 in A Sideways View
What has evolutionary science to say about physical attractiveness?

How Intention Shapes Blame

By Grant H. Brenner M.D. on March 24, 2017 in ExperiMentations
We tend to blame easily, at our peril. Blaming can take the place of thinking, and lead to vicious cycles. Understanding how blame works can help us make better choices.

How Much Solidarity Do You Feel With Animals?

By Hal Herzog Ph.D. on March 23, 2017 in Animals and Us
A new scale helps researchers study why some people identify with animals and others despise them.

Hate Your Partner Some Days? Research Shows You're Not Alone

By Amie M. Gordon PhD on March 23, 2017 in Between You and Me
Do you sometimes hate your partner? If so, you're not alone. It turns out we all have times when we hate the people we love the most. Although some of us may not even know it.

A Deeper Significance Found in Choice of Pronouns

By Lydia Denworth on March 23, 2017 in Brain Waves
New research on "you" reveals the power of pronouns in helping us process and make meaning from hard times.

Finding Yourself in the New Tribalism

By Carol S. Pearson Ph.D. on March 23, 2017 in The Hero Within
Neotribalism is a sociological term that describes the way many countries are splintering apart in response to a global society in which it is difficult to find our individual iden

Why Conflict Is Healthy for Relationships

Are you a conflict avoider? Read on to learn why conflict is actually healthy for your relationships.

Why Is Secret Sex So Exciting?

Do you have a secret relationship? Do you find secret sex to be more exciting? Find out why secret sex can be more novel, thrilling, intimate, and satisfying.

Relationship Mistakes to Watch Out For Early On

While some people do change, most don't. Old habits die hard. If things are difficult now, the likelihood is that they are only going to get worse.
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Healing the Most Important Relationship In Your Life

If you had a choice, what would you rather be feeling right now?

Hell Yes: The 7 Best Reasons for Masturbating

By Neel Burton M.D. on March 22, 2017 in Hide and Seek
The stigma surrounding masturbation has to stop.

The Scarfmaker

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on March 22, 2017 in How To Do Life
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How to Handle Someone in a Bad Mood

By Sheila Kohler on March 22, 2017 in Dreaming for Freud
Yesterday my husband, a doctor, came in the door,with a long face, carrying the groceries he had bought. I could see he was annoyed.

Relatedness and Autonomy, A Delicate Balance

"Successful mountain climbers know that they must spend at least as much time if not more, in tending their base camp as they actually do climbing mountains..." - M Scott Peck

5 Unhealthy Relationship Patterns

If you want your relationship to last, there are certain relationship styles you should attempt to avoid or at the very least keep to a minimum.

To Alleviate Moving Stress, Ask Yourself 20 Questions

Despite the stress of change, you can alleviate moving anxiety by appreciating where you are living now and looking forward, with gratitude, to a new place to call home.

Learning from the First Lovers

By Kaja Perina on March 21, 2017 in Brainstorm
Bruce Feiler, author of The First Love Story, explores the biblical tale that continues to illuminate contemporary unions.

Who's Harder to Buy Gifts for, Men or Women? It Depends!

Who’s harder to buy gifts for, men or women? It depends on who’s doing the giving!
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Is Your Relationship Toxic?

You may not realize your relationship is harming you or be able to leave. Find out the symptoms, whether there's hope for change, and steps you can put into action.

Why You Can Marry the Right Person

You don't have to accept that you will choose the wrong partner. There are skills to help you select who is right for you.

Relationships Are Like Surfing

“You can’t stop the waves from coming, but you can learn to surf.” -Swami Satchidinanda

The Mindset that Makes it Hard to Admit You're Wrong

People make mistakes all the time, but for many of us, admitting to them is painful and hard. Figuring out how to apologize can at least get you on the right pathway.

Family Dysfunction: How Therapists Get the Whole Story

Therapists have several useful techniques for getting shameful, protective, or guilty patients to open up and tell the whole story regarding dysfunction in their families.

How "Daily Uplifts" Can Counter Depression

By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. on March 21, 2017 in Think, Act, Be
When we're depressed we tend to think that nothing will lift our mood. Results from a new study suggest otherwise.

Can You Lie to Your Lover?

For a relationship to work, must we always tell the truth?