All About Parenting

From talking and reading to infants to making values clear (best done in conversations around the dinner table), parents exert enormous influence over their children's development. They are, however, not the only influences, especially after children enter school. It is especially important that parents give children a good start, but it's also important for parents to recognize that kids come into the world with their own temperaments, and it is the parents' job to provide an interface with the world that eventually prepares a child for complete independence. In a rapidly changing world, parenting seems subject to fads and changing styles, and parenting in some ways has become a competitive sport.

But the needs of child development as delineated by science remain relatively stable. There is such a thing as overparenting, and aiming for perfection in parenting might be a fool's mission. Too much parenting cripples children as they move into adulthood and renders them unable to cope with the merest setbacks. There is also such a thing as too-little parenting, and research establishes that lack of parental engagement often leads to poor behavioral outcomes in children, in part because it encourages the young to be too reliant on peer culture. Ironically, harsh or authoritarian styles of parenting can have the same effect.

Recent posts on Parenting

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Big Little Lies

By Stephen Gray Wallace on January 17, 2018 in Decisions Teens Make
Despite uniformity among children, teens, and adults about the importance of honesty, it often seems in short supply.

Moms of Girls: a Good Self Image Starts with You

By Dena Kouremetis on January 17, 2018 in The Unedited Offspring
We actually have to make an effort to appreciate ourselves and verbalize that appreciation to our daughters.

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The Most Important Sex Education Lesson of All: Consent

By Adam Price Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in The Unmotivated Teen
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Teens and Dangerous Levels of Cell Phone Use

By Michael Ungar Ph.D. on January 16, 2018 in Nurturing Resilience
If we’re going to prevent children putting themselves at risk for mental disorders, parents and communities are going to have to impose some rules and take a lesson from Iceland.

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By Paula L. White M.A. on January 16, 2018 in Shape Parenting
No matter the field—academics, athletics, the arts or activism—some children in varied pursuits grow up to be adults who excel. Here's how parents help to make that happen.
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Meet Your Family's Future at a Family Meeting

By Brad E Sachs Ph.D. on January 16, 2018 in Emptying The Nest
Even when children approach adulthood, reflecting on your family's past and present lays the the groundwork for a richer and more satisfying family future—for both generations

Does Your Child Lie?

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"I Hate My Mother"

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Healing From a Toxic Childhood? The Two Words You Need Most

By Peg Streep on January 16, 2018 in Tech Support
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Homer Simpson as Parent

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Life as a Bilingual II

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In Sports, Giving Up Means Giving Up on Yourself

By Jim Taylor Ph.D. on January 14, 2018 in The Power of Prime
The pet peeve that gets me the most is when, in practice or competition, athletes give up at the smallest mistake or failure. When they do, they automatically lose.

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Calling Trump Childish Shows How We Disrespect Children

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on January 14, 2018 in Freedom to Learn
We've taken long strides toward moving beyond the negative stereotyping of many groups. Let's now stop stereotyping children negatively, too.

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Stop being the emotional hostage of a narcissistic parent.
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Decisions, Decisions, Decisions

By Sandra Butler on January 11, 2018 in It Never Ends
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The Type of Praise You Give Matters

By Art Markman Ph.D. on January 11, 2018 in Ulterior Motives
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Study of Borderline Personality Disorder Observes Families

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Depression and Suicide

By Nancy Rappaport M.D. on January 08, 2018 in We Are Only Human
As students return to schools after the holidays, parents should also have a potentially life-saving talk with their kids to avert a possible tragedy — suicide.

Violent Media and Aggressive Behavior in Children

By Vanessa LoBue, Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in The Baby Scientist
With recent gun violence in the U.S., one of the questions that always comes up is whether violent media promotes violent or aggressive behavior, especially in children.
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Adolescence and Freedom of Choice

Ending adolescence and now assuming independent self-management responsibility, the young person painfully discovers the costs that come with freedom of choice.

Pediatricians Have the Power to Improve Moms' Mental Health

New research shows that pediatricians have the potential to vastly improve the mental health of women and families.