All About Caregiving

In a 2004 national survey, the AARP found that 44.4 million Americans are providing unpaid care to an adult, and the estimated annual value is $257 billion. To do so is a beautiful act of love and devotion, but also a great drain on one's physical and psychological resources.

Recent posts on Caregiving

Dealing With Feelings

"Minimize affect inhibition... Maximize positive affects… Minimize negative affects.” — Silvan Tomkins

Top "Turning Straw Into Gold" Pieces from the Past 6 Years

I always celebrate my anniversary of writing for Psychology Today with a post that offers some of my past pieces for reading.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Adolescence and the Parental "No"

A parental "no" is a barrier to adolescent freedom. Parents have to decide when to keep the barrier up and when to let it down.

A Lost Opportunity for Mental Health Reform?

We don't let persons with Alzheimer’s leave the nursing home and wander the streets. Then, why do we allow persons with mental illness to refuse treatment and live under a bridge?

When Aging Parents Feel Like Giving Up—Now What?

The emotional price for caregiving can be high. But there are some things you can do to improve your energy and that of your loved one.

Photography Documenting Mental Illness Draws Criticism

Through her project, feelings of pain and hurt that Melissa held toward her mother were gone, and she found herself feeling greater empathy, acknowledging her mother's illness.

Nurture the Phoenix

By Toby Israel Ph.D. on March 07, 2017 in Design on My Mind
Can art + environment + psychology = a formula for our phoenix to rise from the ashes?

Can Empathy Heal?

By Julie K. Hersh on March 04, 2017 in Struck By Living
With one out of four people managing depression, chances are the person next to you can empathize and offer help.
Jessica Mendoza, used with permission

Touching the Dying

The comfort of touch.

Are You Suffering From Caregiver Fatigue or Burnout?

Do you have any time or energy left in the day to take care of YOU?

A Better Mousetrap: The Heart of Com-passion

By Gregg Levoy on February 27, 2017 in Passion!
Passion means "to suffer," and compassion means shared suffering. This story explores what's at the heart of compassion, and asks what we're willing to pay for it.
https://pixabay.com/en/love-loving-me-child-hope-prayer-1833162/

How to Develop Self-Compassion

By Diana Raab Ph.D. on February 26, 2017 in The Empowerment Diary
Self-compassion is a very important aspect of self-care. Many of us get wrapped up in caring for others and neglect ourselves. Sometimes writing can help us develop self-compassion

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Helping

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on February 26, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Helping someone you love, through providing needed assistance, filling their request, assuming their task, or even taking care of yourself can enhance intimacy, respect, gratitude.
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So You Want to Be Happy? OK, But Consider This...

Research suggests that you should carefully evaluate your positive experiences. Those that you do not control can relate to negative outcomes.

Polite Doctors are Safer Doctors

Little things like polite communication and consistent use of basic safety habits can mean the difference between life and death medical care.

Unselfish Singles: They Give More Time, Money, and Care

By Bella DePaulo Ph.D. on February 24, 2017 in Living Single
Studies based on tens of thousands of participants show that the stereotype of the self-centered single person is exactly wrong. Singles are more giving than married people.

Caregiving and Complicated Family Dynamics

By Deborah J. Cohan, Ph.D. on February 12, 2017 in Social Lights
How to care for yourself amidst the chaos of caregiving.

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Giving

By Roni Beth Tower Ph.D., ABPP on February 12, 2017 in Life, Refracted
Give time, caring, and attention as well as gifts, experiences, and words.

Everything You Need to Know About Chronic Fatigue Syndrome

By Toni Bernhard J.D. on February 07, 2017 in Turning Straw Into Gold
"Lighting Up a Hidden World" is the most comprehensive guide to-date on Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, a little-understood illness that can have a devastating effect on people’s lives.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

Teaching the Early Adolescent About Freedom

Adolescence are concerned with getting freedom to grow -- freedom from from old restraints and freedom for new opportunity. Parents need to speak to both concerns.
Sarah Baker/Flickr/CC by 2.0

Prisoners Working With the Dying

How prisoners can learn compassion.

Trauma and First Responders: When the Helpers Need Help

It’s not easy to admit you’re struggling emotionally. It’s even harder when you’re one who usually comes to the rescue of others.

Do Scars Always Make Us Stronger?

By Erin Wood on January 18, 2017 in Marked
How a cliché causes us to miss important discoveries.
Kristin A. Meekhof

Breaking Bad: Things to Consider When Delivering Bad News

Why Empathy Matters In Breaking Bad News

Ghosts of Winters Past

By Susan Hooper on December 30, 2016 in Detours and Tangents
Long winter nights and holiday traditions can combine to summon vivid, bittersweet memories of loved ones we have lost.
Carl Pickhardt Ph.D.

The Invisible Efforts of Parenting

Celebrate your investment. Your teenager won't.

Giving Love and Support to Others Could Help You Live Longer

By Christopher Bergland on December 24, 2016 in The Athlete's Way
Making an effort to take care of people within—and beyond—your immediate family is associated with longer life expectancy for the caregiver, according to a new international study.

Last Minute Holiday Toys that Break the Gender Box

By Karlyn Crowley Ph.D. on December 21, 2016 in Woman Power
Don't let final toy shopping countdown get you down, try these toys that free your child's development.

Dining with Disability

"Why does Grandma talk funny?", your daughter asks at the holiday dinner.

Love as Attachment

Compulsive care-seekers, compulsive caregivers and avoidant individuals typically do not have a loving response that matches that of their partners.