Dealing with Anger

You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all out? Anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it. Some insight into why we have it and how it works can help you better manage this raw emotion before it causes self-harm or erupts into hostile, aggressive, or perhaps even violent behavior toward others.

Recent posts on Anger

Making Peace With Conflict

By Holly Parker, Ph.D. on January 18, 2018 in Your Future Self
Conflict isn’t fun or delightful. It runs the gamut from mildly annoying to immensely distressing, and it can damage relationships. But is it intrinsically harmful?
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Fight Emotion With Emotion

By Shahram Heshmat Ph.D. on January 17, 2018 in Science of Choice
An important way to enhance self-control is to use our emotions to achieve challenging goals.

How Suppressed Emotions Enter Our Dreams and Affect Health

We push negative thoughts out of our waking minds and they appear in our dreams, doing little good. How can we find a balance to address negative emotions with positive intent?

Reacting and Responding

The distinction between reacting and responding is an important one and one I have emphasized in my psychotherapy and counseling practice.

Should You Try To "Get Over" Grief?

Grief is overwhelming. It is painful beyond measure. Should you active try to "get over" it?

Don’t Let HCPs Ruin Your Life in 2018

High Conflict People are increasing rapidly. Use these four counter-intuitive skills to deal with them.
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Why Pro Sports Make Us Cry

By Steve Albrecht DBA on January 15, 2018 in The Act of Violence
Watching your football team lose can bring anger and tears.

Top 10 Tips for Keeping Your Cool

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on January 15, 2018 in Emotional Fitness
Keeping your wits about you when the kids are acting up, your boss is down on you, and your mate is all over the map can be a challenge. Here are 10 tools to help.

Adored, Reviled, and Forgotten by the Narcissist

Stop being the emotional hostage of a narcissistic parent.

What Would It Take?

By David P. Barash Ph.D. on January 11, 2018 in Peace and War
Could we have another early 1980s-style, grassroots movement today? It’s not impossible.

You Are Going to Fall in Love With This Person—Really?

By Kevin Bennett on January 10, 2018 in Modern Minds
Will you fall in love with your total opposite? Are cult members dumb, gullible sheep? Answers to these questions and eight other surprises from psychological science.

Sigmund Freud Hated America: 5 Reasons Why

As a boy, Freud hung a copy of the Declaration of Independence in his room and memorized the Gettysburg Address. As an adult, he came to loathe everything American.

Closure Is Overrated

"You need closure." Heard that before? Here's why getting closure is unrealistic in some circumstances.
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Does Your Hearing Loss Ever Make You Want to Scream?

By Shari Eberts on January 09, 2018 in Life With Hearing Loss
Does your hearing loss ever make you so frustrated you could just scream? Try these tips to help you survive these inevitable bouts of vexation.

How and Why to Diagnose Psychopathic Narcissism

By Stephen A. Diamond Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in Evil Deeds
When are mental disorders defined and diagnosed by the suffering inflicted on others?

Did My Narcissistic Mate Mean to Hurt Me?

If you have ever wondered if your narcissistic mate was intentionally causing you pain or simply oblivious, this article can help you understand what was going on and why.

Violent Media and Aggressive Behavior in Children

By Vanessa LoBue, Ph.D. on January 08, 2018 in The Baby Scientist
With recent gun violence in the U.S., one of the questions that always comes up is whether violent media promotes violent or aggressive behavior, especially in children.

Pulling Back? Withdrawing? 5 Possible Reasons Why

By Robert Taibbi L.C.S.W. on January 07, 2018 in Fixing Families
Pulling back, emotionally or physically withdrawing happens to all of us from time-to-time. Here are five common reasons why and how to handle them.

Why Young People Need Their Aggression

By Nick Luxmoore on January 07, 2018 in Young People Up Close
Instead of always giving in or always trying to crush it, we have to understand aggression as essentially defensive, as a kind of anxiety, a kind of panic.

Don’t Create What You Defend Against: Don’t Build the Wall

By Hal Shorey Ph.D. on January 06, 2018 in The Freedom to Change
When we defend ourselves too strongly and without thinking about long-term outcomes, we tend to make situations worse and create the very outcomes we feared.

Save Yourself From Unnecessary Heartache!

Have you ever thought, "I'll never fall in love again"? There's a better way to take care of yourself without depriving yourself of deep connection.

The Psychology of Star Wars: Dark Side Edition

By David B. Feldman Ph.D. on January 05, 2018 in Supersurvivors
Star Wars makes lots of claims about our darker emotions. Are they accurate?

The Benefits of Emotional Awareness

By Marianna Pogosyan Ph.D. on January 05, 2018 in Between Cultures
Insights into our emotions from one of the most influential psychologists of our time.

Understanding the Roots of Dog Behavioral Problems

Behavioral pathologies are a sign that our dogs are suffering psychologically, and we need to understand what causes these problems to develop.

Helping Victims of Sexual Harassment Bear Witness to Anger

How can we help victims of sexual harassment feel safer about addressing their pain?

How Should We Judge Milkshake Ducks?

Not with anger or scorn, but in a more nuanced manner.
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A Happiness Formula for Difficult Times

The key is to stop fighting life and instead roll with it.
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Notable Crimes of 2017

By Katherine Ramsland Ph.D. on December 29, 2017 in Shadow Boxing
Looking back on some of the most shocking crimes of 2017.

Power, Sex, and What Else is New?

Apparently we've reached a tipping point at which enough women have enough power to speak up against sexual assault. But things are far from perfect. Here's what I wish for 2018...

The Mathematics of Forgiveness

By Robert Enright Ph.D. on December 22, 2017 in The Forgiving Life
When others treat us unfairly we tend to become collectors of wounds that can deprive us of happiness. Perhaps it is time to confront those accumulated wounds.